How would you handle this situation with a girl?

My advice to bachelors is to have many female prospects so that when one (or more) pulls this crap it wont be a problem.

Many people are unreliable, and many women can be more so . A more mature or interested woman wouldn't have acted in that way.

Slightly off topic but it never ceases to amaze me how many people prefer to text rather than speak on the very same instrument.
It would seem the OP would have had many of his questions about this girl's feelings answered or at least have had more meaningful
"communication" by just TALKING to her right from the beginning. I guess we are in a texting/social media age where actually talking
to a person suggests some kind of a risk. /rant

She wouldn't have answerd his call, doi

Actual conversation requires having true game. Texting supplies buffers between real time interactivity so betas can try and figure out how to come off with roguish insouciance.

Betas answer texts too quick

i would bring a hotter girl to said meeting with mutual friend, and have no regrets. because life is good in this situation. members here mostly have a grasp of self presentation. and if you are genuinely a nice guy, bite the bullet, and ask a hot girl out!
for you and the SF collectives sake! we got game. don't shame us. you can do this.

that cute girl who smiled at you recently? there was one, ask her to an NBA game and drinks after. do it!!! or you got no game.
have fun, make memories. get laid. get married, wait, this is getting less good.

**** her sister. If she lacks a sister, **** her mom.

Some very good advice and points. I do hang out with a lot of beautiful women, but I actually liked this girl.

I just couldn't take what I considered to be rude behaviour which showed a lack of respect for my time or suggestion that I felt like telling her.

So many people say honesty is valuable in good relationships, well, for me it's shown people can't take it when you tell them.

I was speaking to a girl friend of mine last night about this coming home from a party. She says it was disrespectful that she didn't have the courtesy to say she couldn't make it on Sunday because of 'flu' even if nothing concrete was planned.

The other thing she said is she's used the opportunity as a get out clause as we haven't spoken to each other since (it's been 5 weeks).

I've moved on now, though I feel completely stupid the day or two after where I tried to repatch any differences as I took some bad advice and thought I was an asshole for telling her how I felt.

Funny enough she did a similar thing over the weekend, my friend organised a birthday party she put down herself as Attending on fb and only let the guy know the day after 'Sorry she couldn't make it'. People flake but that seems weird.

Go fishing, there's lots out there

it's not just that she disrespected you, the problem is that she actually disrespects herself first. She easily makes commitments but has difficulty actually following through with them. So she's unreliable but moreso, ultimately, what I'd say she lacks is integrity. You may not have played all your cards right, but by the sounds of it, she's her own problem, you just were unfortunate enough to enter her little world. Consider it a blessing you walked away with a minor burn. ****, imagine her texting you the day after the two of yours' wedding and saying sorry I couldn't make it honey.

I completely got the education in flaking about 3 years back and how it looks to someone organising something. For those reasons I have never done it myself, if I am committed to something I go, and if I can't make it I always let the organiser know.

Women are such unpredictable creatures.

They really aren't.



Maverick_ said:

Hi guys,
Considering two weeks before she also said she had 'flu', and overslept for another meet before. I gave her the benefit of doubt these two times but I am interested in hearing what you would do about the above.

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These problems are usually unsolvable. Maybe you seemed too eager, it is not uncommon. Even if you are picky and usually have the upper hand in dating, when you finally meet someone you truly like it can be very easy to show your cards too soon without even realizing what you're doing. When this happens, unless both of you are equally infatuated with one another early on, one of you is going to lose interest because the challenge is no longer there. That's when the flakiness starts. You could try to turn the tables by ignoring her, but some will say that once you have shown your hand it is very difficult to regain her interest.

Your options:
-ignore her hoping to rekindle her interest
-send cock pic
-send chode pic (advanced)



Cleav said:

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Maverick_ said:

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Ahh, that brings back fond memories of highschool

I have the impression there was something about you or your attitude and behavior which changed her mind about you. She was not able to tell you, but she showed you by her own behavior that she changed her relationship to you. Your problem is not her, but yourself.