Email from my ex-What to make of it?

She says that she wants you to see her Wedding Dress.

Ask her to wear it to Wild Wings

Seriously though, put yourself in the other guys shoes.

Why take a chance that something will happen that you will regret.

I would slip horse tranquilizers into her beverage, and wait till she passes out cold. Then, I would take a phenomenally large **** on her chest. That'll teach her.

Originally Posted by rnoldh

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Seriously though, put yourself in the other guys shoes.

Why take a chance that something will happen that you will regret.

Indeed. Sometimes a man needs to leave ***** on the table.

My take:

I think lawyerdad's advice is pretty sound.

What would your current girlfriend think about you getting together with an ex? Even if she says she doesn't care if you see her, she does.

What do you think would come out of a "friendship" with her? Would you really want to see her and her new husband? What kind of friends would you be? I would imagine it would be weird hanging out with her (who - it sounds like you didn't like very much anyway) and the guy she cheated on you with.

Why is she contacting you at 1:45 in the morning?

If you think she may be apologizing for something or you would like to (which may have already been done already), why not call and ask what was so important to talk about and/or take care of your aplogies over the phone? It'll save you the money, time, and getting together with temptation (unless that's what you want). Plus, you can buy some new clothes and impress your current girlfriend. I'm sure she'd appreciate that.

Her email sounds weird to me.

Maybe you could take a pic of your girlfriend and email it to her. She probably won't contact you anymore after that.

Ignore her message, she'll figure it out.

Originally Posted by mrpologuy

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I would like to see her and try to be friends because we did hav esome good time and I want her to be happy.

I'm quoting this as it seems like many in this thread may have overlooked this part

Dumb broad wants to show you her ring, so you know how her "unfortunate sports fan" values her. She is going to pretend to be very happy and gush about it to you ad nauseum.
You will waste a perfectly fine day and probably end up paying for drinks, for old times sake....

I think you should email her back and tell her thanks but no thanks. You can also tell her that you and your gf would go to her wedding if they are invited. Leave it at that

I am not looking for anything physical here and would like to meet with her to catch up. We had good times but we did not bring out the best in each other. I am happy and think she might be. She wanted matt for years and got him. I know she will gush over how good her life is right now when mine is just as good or better. It also gives me a reason to wear a nice jacket and drink a few Stella's or Blue moon's.

Originally Posted by mrpologuy

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She did pay me back. Her dad actually came to my house on a Sunday morning to give me the money and several things i had bought her over the years. She gave me the Kate Spade purse back, but kept the PS2. I had cheated first and did it 2 times while she was ********** with this guy for 2 years. The only reason she told me is because she was drunk. She burned me over the coals when she found out about me but when i found out about her she wanted to drop the subject. My GF knows she emailed me so she knows I might be going. I think this is going to be a great thread.

Ok, I'm changing my answer. Tell her you'll meet her if and only if she brings the PS2.
j/k
I agree generally with what gdl203 (and Ambulance Chaser) said. Nothing wrong with picking up a friendship after the fact if it works for everyone. But imho that's not what's going on here from her perspective -- there are red flags all over the place. If she wanted to resume or explore a friendship, she'd say "Hey, why don't my fiance and I have you and your girlfriend over for dinner sometime. I'd love to catch up with where you are in your life, and I'd love for you to meet Chad, he's such a great guy and I think you'd really get along."

Meeting you at a bar on a night when her fiance is at a Tigers game, and requesting that you guys meet alone, is not about reconnecting as friends now that enough time has passed, imho. Indeed, it almost precludes that. How do you guys develop a mature friendship that can be integrated with her married life and your whatever life when the whole "reconnection" thing comes cloaked in secrecy, etc.? I agree completely with Joel_C on this point.

I know this is my stock answer to these sorts of questions, but truly: If you go ahead with this I wish you the best of luck, but believe that the odds of it leading to an unpleasant mess are much higher than the odds of it being a pleasant, innocous evening.

Originally Posted by rnoldh

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She says that she wants you to see her Wedding Dress.

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After the wedding is she going to send you a picture of the bloody sheet?

Originally Posted by mrpologuy

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. My GF now is busy and doesn't want to go. She said we should treat them to a nice dinner.

I just read this. This is a much better plan, imho. I'd respond to the ex's invitation with something like. "I really appreciate the condolences. I'd love to reconnect, etc. Since the day you suggested is a bad day for Matt, why don't we pick another time -- I'd love to meet him and have you meet _____. How about we have you guys over for dinner one of the next few weekends?"

Originally Posted by Fabienne

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Ignore her message, she'll figure it out.

Off topic, but your son is very handsome, Fabienne. He's grown up a lot since the last time you posted a picture of him.

Originally Posted by iammatt

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I think that if you want to see her as an old friend it is a fine thing to do.

I would not want anything to do with a girl who was pumping a guy behind my back for two years, but then again, I am not GQGeek.

FWIW, it wasn't behind my back, jackass.

Edit: I do agree with Matt here. WTF do you want to be friends with a girl and her husband when they were ******* behind your back for 2 YEARS?

E: Bring new girl and bang them both.