Originally Posted by in stitches
It is very simple in my opinion. If someone makes an offer, and you explicitly accept it, you are a total ass if you go ahead and take a higher offer from someone else after the fact. If you can't keep your word, you suck.
If the offer was a maybe, and you told the person you would give them x amount time. Keep your word.
If you want to allow for higher offers, you have to make sure you potential buyer knows that until payment is issued, there are no guarantees. At that point, its the buyers fault if he delays.
Why is simple decency and honesty so hard for some people?
That is the idea; that until money changes hands, the item is up for sale. Ive never refunded someone through paypal because another offer came through during the transaction process. The second I receive payment, I take listings down. But once or twice a bigger offer came right after confirming a smaller one, and the other party was understanding and said they didnt want to match it.
I dont think I am a piece of shit, but I suppose thats what most supposed pieces of shit would say about themselves. When it happens to me, I dont really think twice about it, but I can see how in the world of high value/unique/exclusive items, when the desire for acquisition extends way beyond simply getting a cool thing at a good price, feelings would flare much more. Thats not a realm I have experience in.
Its not my intention to create ill will or pull the rug out from anyone. To me, its the real world equivalent of having someone come up to a bargaining session at a flea market and offer a greater price for the item in question. The first customer might find the situation awkward, but its still the sellers item and they is free to engage all offers until money changes hands. People do this when they are selling their house and cars fairly often.
Edited by DerangedGoose - 8/2/14 at 10:44pm