I read a lot of commentary written by lunatics and 98 per cent of it is just further trampling the well-worn path, such as The Guardian's new 'it-girl' Charlotte Proudman channeling Andrea Dworkin.
This piece amused me, so here are a few excerpts.
“I’m being kissed. There’s a boy, then another boy. I keep asking if I’m pretty. I keep saying yes.” But in the morning, she wrote, “I feel weird about what went down” and was unsure how to express her feelings of dissatisfaction and confusion over “such a fucked-up experience.”
Which means a vast expanse of bad sex — joyless, exploitative encounters that reflect a persistently sexist culture and can be hard to acknowledge without sounding prudish — has gone largely uninterrogated, leaving some young women wondering why they feel so fucked by fucking.
In this line of thinking, sex after yes, sex without violence or coercion, is good. Sex is feminist.
The hetero (and non-hetero, but, let’s face it, mostly hetero) sex on offer to young women is not of very high quality, for reasons having to do with youthful ineptitude and tenderness of hearts, sure, but also the fact that the game remains rigged.
She winds up feeling bad for not having done the work of telling her partners how to make her feel good. “What I want is not for me to have that burden. I want one of my male partners, who are wonderful men who care about me, to have just once been like, ‘No, this is unacceptable to me. I’m not going to continue to have sex with you when you’re not getting off!’ And I can’t imagine that happening.”
“But I don’t want us to ever lose sight of the fact that consent is not the goal . . . "
A lot of words that could be simply stated as "I want anal"