What if there had been a way for me to report the date rape to the administration, to define that crossing of boundaries in front of my rapist and a panel of well-trained adults, and to express, in a safe forum, my extreme disgust with his actions in such a way that my rapist would have been forced to at least listen to and ponder the hurt he’d caused, followed by sensitivity training and reeducation?
Oh jesus fucking christ.
Yes, but not for the reasons you think.
In a recent 2014 study, “Campus Sexual Misconduct: Restorative Justice Approaches to Enhance Compliance with Title IX Guidance,” authors Mary Koss, Jay Wilgus, and Kaaren Williamsen propose various well-constructed models for restorative justice—a k a “RJ”—in the handling of campus date rapes that I hope are at least being thoroughly read by university officials if not carefully and respectfully implemented as policy. It’s an excellent paper with excellent ideas. And it offers that elusive “third option” I was denied, post-rape, on that sad and painful morning of my college graduation.
I simply do not get this stupid obsession with having Colleges adjudicate sexual assault allegations. It's ridiculous, who wants to pay tuition to a board of assholes to determine whether you have to undergo forced reeducation?
A criminal justice system already exists. If you were raped, call the fucking cops. Otherwise just shut the fuck up you whiny cunt.
the fact that one of us experienced it as a rape should have been enough to force an immediate discussion in which proving guilt, beyond a shadow of a doubt and at the expense of my reputation—a second rape, if you will—was not the goal
No American jurisdiction requires guilt be proven beyond a shadow of a doubt in rape cases. Get a clue.