Originally Posted by Piobaire
Well you've sort of hit the nail on the head which is the issue most of us have with this horseshit being officially promulgated by places like universities and colleges. If withholding sex is sexual abuse just about every man ever in a monogamous relationship has been abused.
I think a lot of the ambiguity there is from trying to boil the concepts down to a paragraph. "Withholding sex" in the context of "not feeling like it" is pretty obviously not abusive. Withholding sex as an overt tool of manipulation is pretty damn gross and really fucks with the trust in a monogamous relationship, and I don't have too much trouble with putting it on the emotional abuse spectrum. The difficulty is defining exactly what counts as "manipulation". Not being horny because your SO didn't do the dishes probably isn't manipulative in that sense, but not having sex because they wouldn't meet Arbitrary Demand X and making that connection explicit probably is. Fuzzy lines, for sure.
The obvious problem with all this is that the Tumblr community and their ilk will take this stuff and use it to perpetuate the framework where "the oppressors" cannot possibly behave correctly.
Originally Posted by Harold falcon
Please tell us, how must it feel to be a 30 year old virgin?
My wife is very disappointed with my