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post #31 of 128
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Originally Posted by NeedStyleHelp View Post

 

As I posted after, why is it the case that nobody usually dresses that way and has to submit to the culture of the workplace? On my first day, as with other poster's experiences, I had a tie on and was told that I didn't have to wear one (pre-Styleforum days). I abided at the time, but my knowledge and tastes have changed since then.

 

You're right in that it was out of the ordinary for me to dress like that, however, why do others feel the need to create a "ceiling", so to say, for how people should dress, and then mock/chide them whenever they try to go above that "ceiling"?

 

Btw more clarification, jeans are rarely worn, more trousers and button down shirts. I'll add this to the original post.

Yep...like I said...a self-serving rationalization. I had THIS ^^^ very type of response in mind while I was typing my post. Damn, you're predictable.

 

If the office was filled with ties (by choice, not by requirement), and someone showed up wearing jeans and a graphic tshirt, you'd have started a thread about that dumb@ss guy who didn't get it, but since it's you who's on the outside, you spin it to make it seem like everyone else has it wrong and shouldn't "create a ceiling."

post #32 of 128

I actually wouldn't recommend wearing a suit in your environment because it seems too many 'levels up' from where everyone else is currently at.  The reality is that, at least in many jobs, teamwork and partnering with others is important.  As well, many people in the workplace pay attention to things other than your actual competence or ability to partnership.  If others perceive you as being 'snobby' there are certain people who will hold on that stigma, including those in higher level positions.  My rule of thumb has been to dress one step up and no higher.  In my situation, I dress a bit more casually in summer because I'm a bit of a bigger guy and can't take hot weather (nice khakis, button down shirt, and nice Allen Edmonds shoes with a nice matching belt).  But, in the fall and winter months I wear a lot of flannel or wool pants and OCBDs with merino wool sweaters.  At times I will sometimes wear a tie and/or jacket to go with it (love my camelhair jacket!).  While I do get many compliments, I also get a roughly equal amount of, "Dude - why are you wearing a tie?  We all know you - who are you trying to impress?".  I can't imagine wearing a suit in my environment.

post #33 of 128
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Originally Posted by NeedStyleHelp View Post

Context: I'm a junior-level employee at a government office where it is EXTREMELY casual. Hardly anyone ever puts any effort into how they look. Those that do, wear dress pants and a shirt. While I typically abide by this silly idea, I, on the other hand, enjoy dressing up, in a suit and tie.

OJFC, just get over yourself and wear slacks and a shirt. Maybe an odd jacket every once and awhile.

You said it yourself: you're a junior level employee working in a very casual office.

If you want to wear a suit everyday, go find a different line of work/more formal office (law, banking, etc.)
post #34 of 128

There is an old adage which should be remembered in these circumstances;

 

"Dress for the job you want to have, not for the job you already have."

post #35 of 128
Thread Starter 
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OJFC, just get over yourself and wear slacks and a shirt. Maybe an odd jacket every once and awhile.

You said it yourself: you're a junior level employee working in a very casual office.

If you want to wear a suit everyday, go find a different line of work/more formal office (law, banking, etc.)

 

Thanks for the advice, that is what I currently am trying to do; fingers crossed!

post #36 of 128
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by Calder View Post

There is an old adage which should be remembered in these circumstances;

 

"Dress for the job you want to have, not for the job you already have."

Read my mind fing02[1].gif

post #37 of 128
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There is an old adage which should be remembered in these circumstances;

"Dress for the job you want to have, not for the job you already have."

This rule doesn't apply in an office where there is a very low standard of business dress, and people who wear suits are mocked.

OP should be aiming for one notch above the average: well-ironed slacks and a shirt, and nice shoes.
post #38 of 128
Thread Starter 

First off, I appreciate the posts. At first, it was more me venting about the matter. Like I said, I do see both sides of the matter and do appreciate the other, but don't necessarily agree in all aspects.

 

I'd like to continue with this discourse, it's quite fun, but can we try to keep it more civil?

post #39 of 128
go full tibor. boom. problem solved.
post #40 of 128
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Originally Posted by Alex Dumortier View Post

I don't recommend either of these responses in a government office.

I'm actually very apolitical but if a government of a country actually incurred my wrath I assure you they would be very, very sorry they did, in very short order. wink.gif
Edited by David Reeves - 7/25/13 at 4:52am
post #41 of 128

The office where I work has a very relaxed dress code. I do wear a suit and tie every day. The only people who think I am uptight or snooty are the ones who haven't even taken the time to talk to me properly, despite efforts on my part to initiate conversation to get to know each other. Sorry - who is supposedly uptight and snooty? Anyone who has taken the time has been pleasantly surprised by the fact that I am actually 100% approachable and down to earth.

 

So, dress however the hell you want; how other people react will say a lot more about them than the way you dress does about you.

post #42 of 128
Suit and tie is the standard in my office. No negative comments from colleagues at all - I was only asked twice who my tailor is.
post #43 of 128
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Originally Posted by NeedStyleHelp View Post

 

As I posted after, why is it the case that nobody usually dresses that way and has to submit to the culture of the workplace? On my first day, as with other poster's experiences, I had a tie on and was told that I didn't have to wear one (pre-Styleforum days). I abided at the time, but my knowledge and tastes have changed since then.

 

You're right in that it was out of the ordinary for me to dress like that, however, why do others feel the need to create a "ceiling", so to say, for how people should dress, and then mock/chide them whenever they try to go above that "ceiling"?

 

Btw more clarification, jeans are rarely worn, more trousers and button down shirts. I'll add this to the original post.

 

Culture is shared beliefs and actions.  If you don't mind being outside the culture, or can handle it, then do so. If it bothers you that you are outside, then don't be outside. Or go to the edge of the culture - dressing slightly nicer but not totally differently.

post #44 of 128
Whenever I see debates like these I'm thankful that I'm a creative and can get away with eccentricity because it's expected.
post #45 of 128
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Originally Posted by Alex Dumortier View Post

I don't recommend either of these responses in a government office.

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Originally Posted by David Reeves View Post

C'mon it's harder to get fired in government jobs than the private sector.

I once worked with a guy that showed up every day just reeking of booze. If he had been on the elevator before you, you would know it. He nearly got into an altercation with a female coworker. He made disparaging remarks about our Director in a conference room full of colleagues. He began to sleep in his car for hours at a time, before taking the further step of going home to sleep while on the clock. He called our boss a nazi for phoning him at home to see if he was ok and coming back to work. He made inappropriate comments to summer students. He once pulled a bag of pretzels out of the garbage so that he could eat the salt. Another time, he was so messed up that he hit the dirt when a loud truck went by, out of fear it was a terrorist attack. IN CANADA. I could write a book about this guy and never run out of material. Despite all of this (and so much more), even the fact that his position was completely obsolete did not get him fired. No, when he finally left the building, it was his choice.....because he was "sick of this shit".
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