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post #31 of 51
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Originally Posted by bings View Post

get into on-line dating.

i dont have first hand experience but a bunch of my friends or clients are doing ridiculous things through on-line dating. some of them accidentally fell in love too.

Better idea -- strive for a balanced life, meet a lovely woman, marry her, get home everyday before 6, make love, make dinner, watch a movie, make love again, go to bed. Have babies, etc. etc.

Your advice seems like a recipe to be living alone in a cold, empty condo in your thirties, perusing online ads for escort agencies.

There is nothing wrong with striving for success and working hard at a young age. Never at the expense of what truly brings happiness though -- personal fulfillment, family, self discovery and having an impact in the lives of others.
post #32 of 51
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Originally Posted by Lord-Barrington View Post

Better idea -- strive for a balanced life, meet a lovely woman, marry her, get home everyday before 6, make love, make dinner, watch a movie, make love again, go to bed. Have babies, etc. etc.

Your advice seems like a recipe to be living alone in a cold, empty condo in your thirties, perusing online ads for escort agencies.

no, it yielded what your first point was.
post #33 of 51
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Originally Posted by bings View Post

no, it yielded what your first point was.

No one ever wins an argument over the Internet, so I will take your word for it and not attempt to argue otherwise.

The path you suggest, however, seems to be difficult to conjugate with a healthy, balanced lifestyle that gives you time for yourself and for others.
post #34 of 51
As someone more than twice your age, let me share with you that the best decision I ever made for myself and my family was to work very close to home. Making that a priority meant working late wasn't a big deal, I had time for the gym, I could get to my sons athletic practices and games. I didn't have to spend $$$$ commuting or hours battling traffic. A no commute lifestyle gives you time to live your life. Go for it no matter what it costs in dollars.
post #35 of 51
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Originally Posted by pocketsquareguy View Post

As someone more than twice your age, let me share with you that the best decision I ever made for myself and my family was to work very close to home. Making that a priority meant working late wasn't a big deal, I had time for the gym, I could get to my sons athletic practices and games. I didn't have to spend $$$$ commuting or hours battling traffic. A no commute lifestyle gives you time to live your life. Go for it no matter what it costs in dollars.

On this, I agree 100% with both pocketsquare and bings. Ditch the commute -- you will not regret it.
post #36 of 51
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Originally Posted by Lord-Barrington View Post

No one ever wins an argument over the Internet, so I will take your word for it and not attempt to argue otherwise.

The path you suggest, however, seems to be difficult to conjugate with a healthy, balanced lifestyle that gives you time for yourself and for others.

you just won by agreeing with me smile.gif

you're good at the internet
post #37 of 51
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Originally Posted by bings View Post

you just won by agreeing with me smile.gif

you're good at the internet

We will agree to agree on what we agree on, and disagree on the rest.
post #38 of 51
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Originally Posted by Lord-Barrington View Post


On this, I agree 100% with both pocketsquare and bings. Ditch the commute -- you will not regret it.

 

+1 for ditching the commute. 

 

I have a rule -- I refuse to commute for more than 30 mins each way. I arrange my working hours and jobs accordingly. I may limit my options in terns of earning more $, but having an option to be home early, go to the gym and enjoy a cup of coffee in the morning is priceless.  

post #39 of 51
OP, what you need is more pussy. Simply being in central SF clearly isn't really helping with that and if you never have any free time it never will. Move to where your job is, get a cool pad, exercise, and then sign up for online dating or travel more. The professional guys that can get by without online dating in urban areas usually have active social lives/big social circles or in fields where it's easy to pick up strangers, which probably doesn't apply to you (or me for that matter). My situation was very similar to yours, except even more extreme- 20 hours at 110k vs a really nasty 50 at 220k. Most people are shocked by what I chose but I don't regret it.
post #40 of 51
Balance is important to me. I have read quite a few forums written by people that are worried about where they are going and how they are going to get there. I wouldn't throw a timeline on it but there are three ways to move your career forward (IMO).

1) Work hard, receive accolades and get promoted

2) Leave your current company for an equal title but with a national brand name

3) Leave your company for a lesser brand name but better title

If you were to look at my career, I have gone from sale rep -> VP with the same company then moved to a huge name in my industry but a lesser title then went from there to a VP at a start up and finally to a Director of the SE USA and Latin America with one of the biggest names in my industry.

Each position offered more money but by going back and forth from brand name to start up it allowed me to move my career forward faster.

My current position offers me terrific balance. I have three options every day...1) work from my office downtown (45 min commute), work from my home office or work in the field with my reports either in the SE USA, the Caribbean, Mexico, Central America or South America.
What may seem odd is that I often choose the downtown office over my home office! but it gives me the freedom if I want it.
post #41 of 51

Sweet Moses, HOV in the building.

post #42 of 51
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Originally Posted by Svenn View Post

OP, what you need is more pussy. Simply being in central SF clearly isn't really helping with that and if you never have any free time it never will. Move to where your job is, get a cool pad, exercise, and then sign up for online dating or travel more. The professional guys that can get by without online dating in urban areas usually have active social lives/big social circles or in fields where it's easy to pick up strangers, which probably doesn't apply to you (or me for that matter). My situation was very similar to yours, except even more extreme- 20 hours at 110k vs a really nasty 50 at 220k. Most people are shocked by what I chose but I don't regret it.

strongly agree.  I've tried online dating for 6 months and am not getting matched with anyone im attracted to.  I find a big problem with strangers in SF is that it's hard to find someone I am physically attracted to.  So my options are move where there is less competition for attractive women(because all the one's ive asked out are taken), or lower my standards.  

 

btw, 20 hrs a week at 110k, im impressed.  may i ask what you do, consulting?

post #43 of 51
You are probably doing online dating wrong.

Probably has something to do with your reading comprehension skills (based on the content of your post vs the content of the post you quoted)
post #44 of 51

some of us would kill for only 50 hours a week, regardless of pay.

post #45 of 51
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Originally Posted by red81 View Post

some of us would kill for only 50 hours a week, regardless of pay.
if you really feel that way, there are many options with a 40 hour week.
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