I'm not as hard on the OP as most of you. Situations like these are complex, and his reactions sound pretty normal to me. However, I do think it's bad form to be getting it on with a woman in a situation where her little child can and does walk in as things are getting "steamy."
My advice would be to help pay for a babysitter. Take the woman out to a nice dinner or whatever. Get her back to your place and make furious passionate love for awhile and then get her home to her daughter at a reasonable hour. Also, try to befriend the child. Then, if you find you still want the pair of them (because that's what you'll be getting), marry your inamorata, lock your bedroom door and tell the kid to go back to bed when she tries to get in.
True as you shouldn't, I think many here forgot the part the guy is to be a fatherly figure to a spoiled brat that is NOT his daughter. Think of all the consequences for him when the kid grows and starts to rebel. Also to the kid he will be an obstacle for mommy and daddy to be together. It's hard enough to have good relationship with your own kids. Now you basically have to put up with someone elses and support it financially too(unavoidable to some extent if you're to live together). On her priority list you will rank from 2nd to 10th depending on the woman. It's a tough scenario for a man, hard to win in the long run. On a side note, I've just started dating a single mom. I really enjoy her company and I have a crush on her but realistically I give us a small chance. Maybe she's one of the very few women worth that kind of sacrifice that's what I am going to find out. So far it's not serious, so it's fun.
Edited by wojt - 7/25/13 at 5:14am