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post #16 of 46
Well it's clear he's a high roller and had a bucket list of things he wanted to do. I think that's fine but he should have been cognisant of his friend's financial situation and have simply told him/them, "it's on me, let's party". BUt yeah, pretty ridiculous to go off and plan a lavish event for himself that others would have to some how foot part of the bill for.
post #17 of 46

Your friend sounds like a tool...  Anyone who really cares about there friends would never put them in a situation where they would have to spend money they can't afford to spend.  If he knowingly set up a party that you can't afford he's not a very good friend.  He seems like one of those guys that likes to surround himself with guys he feels superior to.  Do you really want to be the wingman????

 

Just explain to him that you can't afford it, and that you'll take him out for dinner or something instead.

post #18 of 46
I don't post much but do frequent the forms often. I felt compelled to reply. Op you need to stop taking handouts from your friend. He clearly is in a whole other financial class then you. Why should he have to front your bill just because he is more successful. In the future if you want a hand out ask mommy and daddy. At least by keeping it in the family you won't come off as a failure to your successful peers and yes they are probably thinking that if you can't keep up with bar tabs. Obviously go to the wedding and give a nice gift but that is all you should do.

I know I am comming of as an asshole as I should because I have money, not 'ballin' money but certainly enough to blow a couple grand on a party on a whim. How I got to my financial situation was by living within my means when I didn't have money, It's as simple as not acquiring debt. Then when you start earning more and more money as you progress in your career all while not owing anyone money.

I see this same behavior with my friends and they just don't get it.
post #19 of 46
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Originally Posted by bmathe02 View Post

I don't post much but do frequent the forms often. I felt compelled to reply. Op you need to stop taking handouts from your friend. He clearly is in a whole other financial class then you. Why should he have to front your bill just because he is more successful. In the future if you want a hand out ask mommy and daddy. At least by keeping it in the family you won't come off as a failure to your successful peers and yes they are probably thinking that if you can't keep up with bar tabs. Obviously go to the wedding and give a nice gift but that is all you should do.

I know I am comming of as an asshole as I should because I have money, not 'ballin' money but certainly enough to blow a couple grand on a party on a whim. How I got to my financial situation was by living within my means when I didn't have money, It's as simple as not acquiring debt. Then when you start earning more and more money as you progress in your career all while not owing anyone money.

I see this same behavior with my friends and they just don't get it.

How did you become so rich and successful that you can tell us about it from the Internet? Many allowances from yard work?
post #20 of 46
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How did you become so rich and successful that you can tell us about it from the Internet? Many allowances from yard work?

my under grad and grad was paid for by my parents as well as my car. like i said take in as little debt as possible if you can swing no debt like myself more power to you. on top of that i just recently moved into my parents lower level rental apt and i dont pay rent. not glamours living at home with my parents right above me but beats doing yard work to pay for bachelor parties.
post #21 of 46
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my under grad and grad was paid for by my parents as well as my car. like i said take in as little debt as possible if you can swing no debt like myself more power to you. on top of that i just recently moved into my parents lower level rental apt and i dont pay rent. not glamours living at home with my parents right above me but beats doing yard work to pay for bachelor parties.


wow... so the guy living off his parents in their basement tells other people how to live??????  If you want to live in off mom and dads coin thats just fine, lucky you, but realize that you sound like a total d-bag when you live in your parents home whilst giving financial advice to people doing their best to make it on their own.  Whilst you are thinking lowly of your friends for going into debt they are thinking lowly of you for living off of someone else's dime and looking down upon them for not being "rich" like you seem to think you are.

post #22 of 46
Thread just got fun again lol8[1].gif
post #23 of 46
Actually it's a 2 bed room with a garden in the back. ground level. Quite nice. I'm an architect and oversaw the renovation.
My advice is don't owe others. Yes it is easier for me because I have family money however it doesn't change the fact my parents followed the same exact advice to get where they are and have told me so. It's how I try to live my life and was just passing on the advice. Now if the original poster follows suit he or she might not be wealthy nor have all the fun experiences like going to bachelor parties but op's offspring will and it will continue.
post #24 of 46
Think past the now
post #25 of 46

WOW.

post #26 of 46
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Originally Posted by bmathe02 View Post

Actually it's a 2 bed room with a garden in the back. ground level. Quite nice. I'm an architect and oversaw the renovation.
My advice is don't owe others. Yes it is easier for me because I have family money however it doesn't change the fact my parents followed the same exact advice to get where they are and have told me so. It's how I try to live my life and was just passing on the advice. Now if the original poster follows suit he or she might not be wealthy nor have all the fun experiences like going to bachelor parties but op's offspring will and it will continue.

So the main advice you are giving the OP is mooch off your parents? Architects are such fucking brain trusts!
post #27 of 46
No my first post said to take a hand out from your parents before you do from a friend or just don't go. Subsequent posters asked how i have so much money to party and i explained just so. I must of struck a chord with members here. I assume The option your advocating is to mooch of op's friend and i still disagree. And just to get back to my personal finances/life I apologize style forum I was wrong to think parents should pay for their children's education and upbringing to make sure they succeed and fair better then themselves. I will be sure to tell dad and mom they failed as parents. I willl also father as many children and make sure they are all collecting welfare checks because I will have abandoned them.
post #28 of 46
We seriously need to get L'Incandescent in here to diagram the logic in that post.
post #29 of 46
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Originally Posted by bmathe02 View Post

No my first post said to take a hand out from your parents before you do from a friend or just don't go. Subsequent posters asked how i have so much money to party and i explained just so. I must of struck a chord with members here. I assume The option your advocating is to mooch of op's friend and i still disagree. And just to get back to my personal finances/life I apologize style forum I was wrong to think parents should pay for their children's education and upbringing to make sure they succeed and fair better then themselves. I will be sure to tell dad and mom they failed as parents. I willl also father as many children and make sure they are all collecting welfare checks because I will have abandoned them.

Despite all the money that your parents have poured into educating, housing and feeding you paying for your partying, nothing that you have stated indicates any degree of critical thinking skills, self awareness or personal ambition. Your parents have failed you.
post #30 of 46
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Originally Posted by bmathe02 View Post

No my first post said to take a hand out from your parents before you do from a friend or just don't go. Subsequent posters asked how i have so much money to party and i explained just so. I must of struck a chord with members here. I assume The option your advocating is to mooch of op's friend and i still disagree. And just to get back to my personal finances/life I apologize style forum I was wrong to think parents should pay for their children's education and upbringing to make sure they succeed and fair better then themselves. I will be sure to tell dad and mom they failed as parents. I willl also father as many children and make sure they are all collecting welfare checks because I will have abandoned them.

The only chord you struck was that your parents have wasted a large amount of money in hopes that you would learn the ability of critical thought. For instance, you said, "The option your (sic) advocating..." I did not advocate any option, and if I did, it would have been "you are" or "you're" not "your." The rest of your twaddle is just that so not worth further comment. The demonstrative advice you give of "living within my means" is ludicrous since you are quite clear it is within the means of your parents that you are living.
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