Yes, please PM me any time.
Just to clarify though, when I say get a buyer's agent, what I mean is don't call to see a place and end up using the seller's agent. I'd call a discount broker or if that doesn't work out, Re/Max (because those agents are independent and can negotiate without interference from their sponsoring brokers). Basically you want to say something like this "I'll be buying a property but I'm using the internet (or whatever) to find it myself. I might need you for a couple (5 or 10 or however many) showings but that's all I need. My lawyer and I will handle the rest. I want to save as much commission as possible and was wondering what you would charge?" I'd throw a number out like $2,000 or something (which is pretty damn good for 5 or 10 showings). 1% or 2% is saving you money too (the buyers end of the deal will generally be 2-3%). So if you can get an agent to do it for say $2,000 on a $250K property (@3% is $7.5K buyer side) you will save $5.5K (that you will walk out of the closing with).
And this is important make sure to let your lender know you will be doing this because some will not let you walk out of closing with the money but will make you apply it towards your down payment.
The key is that you have to do the legwork yourself and stick to the 5 or 10 showings or whatever you agree upon with the agent you're dealing with. You can still call the listing agent and have her show you the property but you need to tell her "I'm working with an agent already and they can't make it today" or whatever and 80% of the time you'll get to see the property.
I'm kind of writing this fast and am probably not too clear so I'll do a quick recap. On a RE transaction if the commission is 6% (and in our market it is 5-6%) the Seller pays his Broker 6% when the house is sold. The Selling Broker then gives 1/2 of that to the Buyer's Broker (3%) for finding a Buyer. You want to keep as much as that 3% for yourself (because you're doing all the legwork). In a typical Broker/Agent relationship the Buyer Agent will receive 1/2 of the 3% from the sponsoring Buyer Broker who keeps the other 1/2 of the 3%. That's why it's important to go to a broker or agent who does not have to split the 3% with a sponsoring party/broker (like Re/Max or a discount/independent where the agents pay a set office fee every month and get to keep the full 3%).
When you hire your agent (and it would probably be a good idea to pay them 1/2 or full upfront) you are essentially negotiating a set fee or rate in return for the Buyer Agent's (aka cooperating) commission (as listed in the MLS). The person you hire will be able to tell you what it is (as offered in the MLS) when you are choosing your property. So you will know that if you buy Property A you will get 2.5% back or if you buy Property B you will get 3% back and so on. Essentially what will happen is at closing the title company will take the funds and disburse the 6% to the appropriate parties and you will get a check for whatever the cooperating commission is. It is also referred to as a Buyer's rebate (and again, I strongly suggest giving your lender a heads up about this).
I hope this is making sense because I gotta run. I'm out of town for the weekend but will probably check in later today.
The obligatory fine print: Real estate commissions are negotiable and any numbers or percentages have been used for illustrative purposes only. I am not a lawyer and take no responsibility for comments made in this post and recommend anyone purchasing real estate to seek advice from a qualified attorney.
