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post #16 of 39
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Originally Posted by landshark View Post

Dont give a fuck and hang out with cooler people.

Basically.

 

I live on a not so dressed up island so it's a similar situation with me.

I remember going abroad as a teen and returning home with a wardrobe that was 2 years ahead of what everyone else was wearing. lol

post #17 of 39
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Originally Posted by scubaru View Post


Whenever I go places for conferences, vacation, etc; basically anywhere outside of Pennsylvania I fit in.  It's when I'm back here I'm the one that sticks out. Don't get me wrong, I don't mind sticking out, its sorta the point I'm trying to make that I'm not another guy, I have some class even for a 23 year old college student.  So how do I get friends to back off the criticism? I'm also not dressing up to my usual par, I am talking nights that I wear black leather loafers, dark jeans, and a button up; I am the dressed up one. 

I haven't read the rest of the thread but here's my two cents: Setting yourself apart (dressing up when others dress down, having a nicer car than your peers, being an over achiever) will always draw comments, criticism, attention. Get used to it. It's human nature to want to conform and I think it rubs some people the wrong way when someone makes a concerted effort not to conform. Get used to some ribbing from your friends, but let them know they need to get used to your choice of clothes. THey don't have to hang out with you if it bothers them that much. A comment like that will probably get them to back off some, but a little friendly teasing is perfectly fine among friends.
post #18 of 39
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That is unfortunate. It sounds like the school that you chose was not a very good fit for your personality. I wasn't trying trying to be harsh; what I was trying to convey is that there actually is a polite society out there, which is hopefully encouraging. Like, if you want more, it's out there. You just have to go get it. I don't know. I can really empathize with you, though, because I would absolutely hate if I felt like I had to wear shitty clothes to appease my friends ... or if I was stuck in a small town with limited mobility ... or surrounded by hooligans or something. I just really encourage you to do something about it, because life outside of the bubble that you're currently living in is pretty awesome. Or maybe I should say that life inside of the bubble that I'm living in is awesome? Who knows. But if you are able to move, it's very easy to "re-invent" yourself -- like, it sounds like you grew out of your old paradigm but your friends won't let you get away with it.

Anyway, regardless of that, why are you wearing dress shoes to a bar at our age? That's kind of weird. I wouldn't bother getting another pair of dress shoes, because it sounds like you don't have to go to very many formal events. You should get a pair of drivers or something.

You remind me of the guy from this New Yorker cartoon:



Oh also -- when I said dig deeper, I wasn't referring to soul-searching. I meant that you should aim for changes in your life that are a shit load bigger and more important than the clothes that you wear, and that being able to wear cool clothes will follow that. Like, the problem is way bigger than clothes. It's where you live and the people you know.

 

All of this sparked from the end of a big relationship in my life, girl of my dreams who I thought was the one I'd end up with broke up with me, i found out she had been cheating on me, left me for another guy, the whole mess. Sorta a point I knew I was finally free to become something better. Friend was always into the "high life" so to speak, guys wearing real Gucci, Prada, Louis Vuitton U-boat.  He was a big help on all of this, my wingman.  He invited me to a conference in San Diego and that was the eye opener, real people dressed presentably with a taste for fine foods and not drinking Pabst blue ribbon, haha.  It changed my perception on the world.  Ever since its been trips all over both with and without him, and me trying to learn something outside of the sheltered life if you will that I lived.  Lets just say I come from a family where my parents didn't know what Louis Vuitton was or Patron, not that I come from a low class family or anything,  just they live a simple life and its fine for them and everyone else i know, I just want to be something else, you know?

 

Sorry if I sounded like I snapped back, just used to the typical internet "face" that people tend to show.

 

As for the dress shoes, I have a mix of white sneakers and the black leather oxfords, I mix between em, I want the black oxfords, a few weddings this summer plus some more to come the following summer.  Plus you can still wear them with darker jeans.  Mostly it depends on the bar/club I'm going to.  If its the one bar up here that is more about drinking microbrews, I'll wear them, if I'm going to the club that has dancing and more causal dressed folk I wear the white sneakers.

 

 

 

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Originally Posted by Aneil4lom View Post

Basically.

 

I live on a not so dressed up island so it's a similar situation with me.

I remember going abroad as a teen and returning home with a wardrobe that was 2 years ahead of what everyone else was wearing. lol

 

Yeah I went to San Diego and Vegas and came back not wanting to put down the shirts or other items I had brought back, can only imagine on an island, haha.

 

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I haven't read the rest of the thread but here's my two cents: Setting yourself apart (dressing up when others dress down, having a nicer car than your peers, being an over achiever) will always draw comments, criticism, attention. Get used to it. It's human nature to want to conform and I think it rubs some people the wrong way when someone makes a concerted effort not to conform. Get used to some ribbing from your friends, but let them know they need to get used to your choice of clothes. THey don't have to hang out with you if it bothers them that much. A comment like that will probably get them to back off some, but a little friendly teasing is perfectly fine among friends.

 

 

It's funny you say this because a lot is true, I don't know if that's a good thing or a bad thing.

 

Obviously I dress up, thats already a point of setting myself apart.

 

As for my car...

 

 

Turbocharged Subaru at age 23, and yes paid for and modified by me, I don't use my parents for much beyond a pick me up when the hours at work slow down and the bills pill up.

 

And overachiever, last semester I was working 4 part time jobs while taking 18 credits.

 

I'm motivated and work hard for what I have.

 

Yeah I give them as much crap as they give me usually, just sometimes its day after day of the same bantering and it gets old.

post #19 of 39
youre annoying
post #20 of 39
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Originally Posted by scubaru View Post

its day after day of the same bantering and it gets old.

yes
post #21 of 39
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Originally Posted by Bhowie View Post

youre annoying

 

you're

 

I thought I joined a forum with you know...mature adults...

post #22 of 39
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Originally Posted by scubaru View Post

you're

I thought I joined a forum with you know...mature adults...

It takes a few years.
post #23 of 39
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Originally Posted by scubaru View Post

 

you're

 

I thought I joined a forum with you know...mature adults...


Because proper grammar on a forum is a sign of maturity. patch[1].gif

post #24 of 39
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Because proper grammar on a forum is a sign of maturity. patch%5B1%5D.gif

Yes because that was clearly why I pointed out the maturity issue....
post #25 of 39
Dude, you don't really seem like a very well behaved individual. Are you sure you've earned the right to commit to dressing up for the nights? This could explain why people have been reacting so negatively to you. You could be a neck.
post #26 of 39
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Originally Posted by riotior View Post

Dude, you don't really seem like a very well behaved individual. Are you sure you've earned the right to commit to dressing up for the nights? This could explain why people have been reacting so negatively to you. You could be a neck.

 

Haha this is the internet, far from any real image of who I am.  Years of surfing car forums have sorta made me a bit short tempered to no point comments as "bhowie" posted.  

 

I act according to the setting, if I'm dressed up just for the day, I act mature and direct with people. If I'm going out for the night I have some fun.  If you are trying to get an idea of who I am based on my sarcastic comments to the previously called out comment then you have the wrong idea about me.

post #27 of 39
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Originally Posted by scubaru View Post

Turbocharged Subaru at age 23, and yes paid for and modified by me, I don't use my parents for much beyond a pick me up when the hours at work slow down and the bills pill up.

And overachiever, last semester I was working 4 part time jobs while taking 18 credits.

I'm motivated and work hard for what I have.

Yeah I give them as much crap as they give me usually, just sometimes its day after day of the same bantering and it gets old.

pile
post #28 of 39
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Originally Posted by acidboy View Post


pile

 

Are you trying to make a point or just trying to build up your post count?

post #29 of 39

I think he's referencing your correction of Bhowie's punctuation. Was not the greatest of retorts on your part.

 

As for this thread...it seems almost like an ill conceived humblebrag/quest for recognition, leading to the negative responses.

post #30 of 39
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Originally Posted by Claghorn View Post

I think he's referencing your correction of Bhowie's punctuation. Was not the greatest of retorts on your part.

 

As for this thread...it seems almost like an ill conceived humblebrag/quest for recognition, leading to the negative responses.

 

You know some fun and sarcasm is fine, but when people are simple posting single words or useless posts like "your annoying" they aren't helping anything.

 

Sorry I am learning how to feel more comfortable in what I'm wearing, I thought that is what this forum is for but apparently not from the impression of several users on here.

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