The problem is the guy is obviously new to the field, so it's not how much he spent, going bespoke on the first serious suit, is in my opinion always a mistake. My taste changed over the years, what I knew about tailoring changed over the years as well. I am glad I haven't gone bespoke on the first try, because I wouldn't wear it anymore. It's not like I would have asked for a dramatic cut suit on the first try, it's lapel width, amount of padding, hacking pocket size that kind things.
A 6K suit that fit well is a good suit regardless RTW or bespoke. You can get it decently right on the first try on a RTW (if it looked awful you would put it back on the rack). 6K bespoke on first suit is a gamble, even with the best house. They might have done it "correctly" by all standard, but it is quite likely it's not something you want as you don't even know what aesthetics you like at that point. Would I suggest OP keep buying Tom Ford until the end of the world? No, he should try different RTW from time to time, and see what he really likes going forward. It takes time to know yourself well enough to see what needs to be changed. He only know something looks "off" at the moment, and doesn't really know what is "right" for himself. I don't think he is ready for bespoke garment.
Certainly a valid outlook, but I would postulate that the top bespoke houses are going to make proper stylistic choices to give a very good looking if not aggressive suit on the get go. If the customers tastes change over time, then it doesn't really matter whether it's OTR or bespoke, so that's a non starter really, and a bespoke item is already constructed to your frame and most likely can stand a better range of alteration in any given direction. The first bespoke suit will usually be pretty good, and then only get better and more in tune with your tastes. Poole had me nailed on my second commission. It's all gravy now, which is where the OP would be for the money he has spent so far. I also think the lesson of patience and process is critical not just for someone who is looking at tailoring as a hobby, but humans in general. The whole instant gratification consumerism we display as a society is abhorrent.
At the end of the day, I like TF. It's as well made as anything and a single piece here and there is fantastic. But the value proposition of just grabbing three OTR at 6k a pop is silly. By the third bespoke commission, you will be totally dialed in with your tailor if you pick a good one.