career advice for my bum of a sister

serious question. my sister is a **** up. she's about 50, she's never held a job for more than 2 years. huge student debt, etc.

anyway, so she is looking for a job, and I was talking to her the other day, and it seems like everybody she talks to about a job, she is hugely critical of their organization. she is a rabbi (yeah, yeah, like the world needs another hate filled raging angry menoposal woman rabbi) and it strikes me that she has never belonged to a synagogue as a member, and she doens't really have friends who aren't proffetional jews. everyone she hangs out with is in her field. I think she has no idea of what the hiring process is like from the other side, and really no concept of what is going on.

she gets rude with the people who call her, and tells them that they don't know what they are doing, or what they want, or their intervewing inst proffetional, etc.

so, aside from her being a *****, is there somethign that I can do to help her?

I am thinking that she needs to understand the other side of the desk, what they are thinking, how the side of the (volenteers) who are interviewing her are thinking.

honestly, any advice here would be welcome. I'd like to try to help her out.

Wow Globe. Have the friends that she does have tried to sit her down and talk to her? IMO, there is always a need for more religious leaders.

Honestly, it sounds like she has a lot of underlying issues that need to be aired out with a therapist.

50 years-old and the inability to hold a job for more than two years? Yeah.. that doesn't just happen without some deep-seated issues and faulty thinking processes..

this is really, really tough because her attitude and first impression will surely sink her chances at any kind of interview or business relationship - no matter what it is or what level. if she can swallow that then she can probably get somewhere. I know I'm not telling you anything you don't already know and you probably have already told/tried to help her with this.

Its hard to not be able to help your family, but advice needs to stick if it can help.

The only thing I can think of is to sketch her future 10 or 15 years from now, with a meager pension (if she has any) and how her life would be. If that doesnt sink in the need to take the attitude down a few notches to get a job I really wouldnt know how else to help her.

At 50 not sure there's anything you can do. AS long as she doesn't live in your house you should write her [lack of a job] off and not worry about it. Don't lend her money too.

thanks, I spent the day talking to career coaches, I was thinking that I would hire and pay for one as a present to her, but it turns out that, like shrinks, they don't want to work with somebody who hasn't made a choice that they need one.

such is life.

You need to cut all tires ties with her before she starts asking for money and a place to live.

Is she a good sister to you? Do your children like her a lot? Why do you care?

Great threat title....



Reevolving said:

You need to cut all tires with her before she starts asking for money and a place to live.

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If this fails, start cutting axles.



itsstillmatt said:

If this fails, start cutting axles.

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I originally read this as "ankles". I was all "DAYUM, Matt. That's cold blooded, even for you..."



Rambo said:

I originally read this as "ankles". I was all "DAYUM, Matt. That's cold blooded, even for you..."

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It was funnier before reevolving edited his post. I read it as career advice for my sister's bum, and I didn't know if it was about her husband or her bottom.

Frankly, at age 50 it's probably too late for her to change. Plus there is a lot of bias against older women especially ones with no skills.



Reggs said:

Is she a good sister to you? Do your children like her a lot? Why do you care?

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no, she's never really been a good sister, and I don't really like her. but, you pick you r friends you don't get to pick family.