Do you expect compliments when dressing up?

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3/7/13 at 9:19am

lawyerdad

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This thread is full of win, in the sense that it offers baseless categorical generalizations to support any conclusion I might wish to adopt.

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post #47 of 71

3/7/13 at 9:20am

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Originally Posted by upr_crust

Do I expect compliments? No. Do I receive them? On occasion, and generally they are happy surprises, and overwhelmingly from women. One recent occurrence happened at the office (I work in a large office tower, all owned by my employer) - a woman from another floor on my normal elevator bank said, "You always look so nice". Now, please realize that I did not recognize the woman as someone with whom I work, nor do I remember seeing her often (if at all) in transit in the elevators. This compliment, as pleasant as it was, took me aback a bit.

As for straight men being indifferent to the way that other men are dressed, I am sure that this is correct. Straight men generally do not see themselves as sex objects (as opposed to straight women, who definitely see men as sex objects). Gay men (of which I am one) are, on the other hand, usually quite conscious of the fact that a better-kept or better-managed appearance means more sexual opportunities.

While this is generally true, in my specific case it is not. I think we can all agree why.

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3/7/13 at 9:27am

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Originally Posted by lawyerdad

This thread is full of win, in the sense that it offers baseless categorical generalizations to support any conclusion I might wish to adopt.

Such is life. If you don't like my opinion, someone with a different view will surely come along shortly. Lessons in the obvious for all of us. :)

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3/7/13 at 10:10am

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Just got a couple of compliments at lunchtime...

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3/7/13 at 10:47am

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I do not expect, nor welcome compliments on my dress. Shoes are a different story, tho, bro.

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3/7/13 at 11:07am

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I don't expect nor desire compliments. I get them multiple times a day which at this stage just bores me. I can't wait for a train without some PR girl hitting on me, bloggers always take pictures of me without asking. I cant buy a sandwich without some dude saying "James Bond!". I swear down I was walking down Madison the other day and someone said "Roger Moore". I have a brain as well you know, I don't like being objectified.

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post #52 of 71

3/7/13 at 11:07am

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Originally Posted by acridsheep

While this is generally true, in my specific case it is not. I think we can all agree why.

It is less important that we agree than it is for all of the eligible "ewes" in the metro Altanta area to agree, but you've already negotiated that, up close and personal, with all of them. The world is always your pasture, Sheepy, and you are always the alpha ram.

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3/7/13 at 11:15am

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Sometimes it all gets too much and I have to fend people off with a stick.

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3/7/13 at 11:17am

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Originally Posted by David Reeves

I don't expect nor desire compliments. I get them multiple times a day which at this stage just bores me. I can't wait for a train without some PR girl hitting on me, bloggers always take pictures of me without asking. I cant buy a sandwich without some dude saying "James Bond!". I swear down I was walking down Madison the other day and someone said "Roger Moore". I have a brain as well you know, I don't like being objectified.

Those are just NYC smartasses...

I always ignore them.

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post #55 of 71

3/7/13 at 11:27am

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Originally Posted by Quadcammer

wow, you are so singly minded that you can only focus on attractive women

sad.

If you're going to "focus" on something, it'd might as well be something that's enjoyable. For me, it's attractive women. I like them. They like me. What you enjoy is your own business...no judgments here. Maybe I haven't committed fully enough to SF to see the "sad" part of that, but again, no judgments here.

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3/7/13 at 11:44am

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Originally Posted by VinnyMac

If you're going to "focus" on something, it'd might as well be something that's enjoyable. For me, it's attractive women. I like them. They like me. What you enjoy is your own business...no judgments here. Maybe I haven't committed fully enough to SF to see the "sad" part of that, but again, no judgments here.

you're trying to hard and it shows.

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3/7/13 at 12:48pm

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Originally Posted by VinnyMac

Maybe I haven't committed fully enough to SF to see the "sad" part of that, but again, no judgments here.

Doesn't have anything to do with SF. Just plain humanity. Taking an interest in people other than yourself (and hot broads).

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post #58 of 71

3/7/13 at 3:03pm

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The best way to practice male compliments are with the jehovah witnesses. Not only do you get to practice on someone whom you could really care less what they think of you, but if you get good enough they wont come back because they are extremely homophobic. They havent been to my house in a while.

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post #59 of 71

3/7/13 at 3:41pm