Originally Posted by LooksGood
Thanks for your insights. On a global scale, yes, you're right. Objectively speaking, I have achieved more than most people in the world. To give you some more context though, my peer group growing up for part of high school and all of college were all in the 95th percentile in terms of success. I grew up in a bad neighborhood but later had the opportunity to go to some good schools and lived a very sheltered life. When you're surrounded by all americans matriculating at the likes of Stanford and driving bmws, while you're struggling to afford the cost of attendance it warps your perception. I didn't own a car until I was in my 20s, and it was a beater from the 90s.
My family and I have been at the bottom of the societal barrel all my life. It shouldn't matter if your father works in fast food as long as he works hard and is inherently a good person, but people don't see it like that. With all this shit I've grown to be a much more negative person. It's funny because since I want to obtain certain things, I'll kind of obsess over the education, maintaining a good physical appearance, etc. and people who don't know me think I have it all together. People who really know me though realize that I have my insecurities and am not truly the in control person I seem outside.
I watched an interview with Jay Z where he put it best: "I'd rather die enormous than live dormant"
Did you actually even read what I wrote? Or did it not sink in? It seems like you are trying to create contrast where there is only similarity.
"When you're surrounded by all americans matriculating at the likes of Stanford, and you're struggling to afford the cost of attendance it warps your perception"? Dude.
I'm an American, too -- I grew up on the east coast, and I think I indicated that I went to a very good college where I was also surrounded by all these kids driving BMWs, etc. Two undergrads had Porsche Cayennes (one was a Turbo S, which really blew my mind). Struggling to afford the cost of attendance is right, I took out all loans to go to college because my family could not support me, leaving undergrad with $60k in loans. Because I dropped out of high school, I started college at 21, and yeah, I didn't have a car until then either -- like I said, it was my grandfather's car that we de-mothballed. Yours was from the '90s, so like 10-15 years old? My car was 24 years old -- from the late '70s -- when I went to college. I drove it all through college, and a few years into my job.
"On a global scale" you might be successful? Shit, man, you're a software engineer, and what did you say you were making, 70, 80k, right? That's around the top 25-30% for the UNITED STATES. You are doing really well for yourself and you should be proud of what you've achieved. My father has worked for 40 years and doesn't clear that much.
Nobody is as in control for real as they may seem. That's all appearance.