I'll be straight with you all. My future wife does not know about this board. I think she'd kill me if she knew that I'm learning why a $1000 suit is really a better deal than the $250 suit that fits pretty well, and that I agreed. She's pretty frugal, even though we are financially stable. Without my knowledge, she really skimped on herself on her wedding dress. I mean really skimped. She spent like $250 on her dress. Like a bespoke suit, a wedding dress takes months to get in. We're getting married in less than 3 months -- not enough time to get a dress without spending exorbitant rush fees, etc., etc. Well, her $250 dress came in yesterday, and I could tell she hated it. The fabric was like canvas, and it had never been touched by a human hand. It was the Jones New York of wedding dresses (okay, even worse). I went to bed feeling like shit, because while I've been here looking for suits and buying and returning, buying and returning trying to find something to make me look dashing, so that she could be proud of me, my beautiful fiancee was devestated at her dress. I felt torn -- should I tell her that the dress wasn't deserving of her? Should I tell her she made a mistake, and that she couldn't wear that dress? Should I take that risk, knowing that we might not have time to find another dress that wouldn't bankrupt us and that would still be the style she wanted? Well, I took the risk. I told her. I told her that she was a deserving person, and that the reason I worked and the reason I went to law school was because I wanted to provide for her. We shouted, and she cried. It was a cathartic moment for her, I think, because she admitted that when she picked up the dress on Saturday, she was really devestated and depressed. She had been trying to tell herself it was beautiful, when she knew that it wasn't. So, I drove her down to a super-expensive bridal shop today and she tried on dresses. They were going to run about $4K with the rush charges and all. It was looking dim. Then, after Ebay was a nonsuccess, on a lark I went to Craig's List. There is was -- posted just 10 hours before was the most beautiful, 100% silk Vera Wang wedding dress. My future wife was at the grocery store, and I called the store and paged her. I told her we were going to look at a dress. I called the couple that had posted the dress on Craigs List and said we would be over in an hour (it was already 10 pm, and they were nice enough to allow us to come over). The style was exactly my future wife -- it was the one she would have picked out of a 1000 dresses. The woman had worn it once to her wedding a year prior. She was cute, happily married. Their life stories were eerily similar to both of ours. We had indeed both lived in SF during the late 1990s before moving to Boston around the same time. The dress had retailed for $4000. They sold it to us for $500. It is truly the most beautiful, simple, and elegant thing I've ever seen, including the Borrellis that I saw today. It is the wedding dress equivalent of a Bijan bespoke: simple, made with love, and perfect. We both hugged and cried a little. The Tiffany diamond necklace that I've been saving up to buy will look beautiful with it. And, now to the punch line: of course I'm the hero. So, I believe that my wedding suit saga may have come to an end, because I told her that I wanted to get rid of all my old, cheap suits, and get measured up for some new ones by W.W. Chan, who are visiting Boston next month and have informed me that they can have my wedding suit to me with time to spare. And, when I told her that I was planning on picking out 3 more to have Chan make me, she smiled and said okay. So, now I'm going to be collecting pictures for my Chan appointment. I think that it will turn out perfectly (or at least better than RTW!. And I can do it all without guilt, because for at least a little while, I am the best guy in the world. I've been trying to call my mother to tell her this story -- I seriously have never been happier (because of the fact that I gave my future wife such a wonderful gift -- I bought the dress for her -- not because of the Chans!. I couldn't reach my mom, so I thought I'd share it will you guys, because I think you'll appreciate it.
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6/7/04 at 1:31am