Why do so many of the responses here seem to be hidden behind sarcasm? It's hard enough to detect when people are being sarcastic in person and to understand their true opinion on a sensitive subject such as this but on the internet it is often near impossible from my perspective. While I do feel our business suits are much like the modern equivalent of armor I don't think we should wear them as masks. I do although appreciate FNB's and Marc's responses as they seemed to be sincere and helpful to me personally, but with that said FNB I found your comment about "clothes poor people wear" to be exactly the type of comment that I hope to never express to myself or others.
When I read your original post I thought I detected a backhanded slap aimed at someone. When I read your subsequent posts, especially in response to Manton, I saw this was inedeed the case.
Sarcasm and passive-aggression are readily apparent, even on the internet, and even when camoflagued as existential introspection. And no, passive-aggressive behavior is not gentlemanly. Better to just slap him with a glove and call him out for a duel.