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post #571 of 1582
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Originally Posted by Newcomer View Post

Also, just a personal note. I do not understand the idea of "expressing your individuality" at your wedding. Maybe it is just me, but I really do not understand it. Aren't you expressing your individuality by choosing your mate?

 

+1. My wedding dress, while beautiful, doesn't really express who and what I am either, and I hate that so many brides think that wedding dresses need to do so. It's beautifully made, appropriate for the occasion, and suits my body type, which is more than enough. It's just a dress.

 

Honestly, if my wedding was really an expression of who I am, we would have eloped. Oh well. Despite our sartorial differences, I love my guy to bits and would still marry him if he were wearing burgundy, haha. I doubt I'd ever look at the photos, though.

post #572 of 1582

Thanks also for the Chelsea boot suggestions! He prefers boots, and I think he would definitely go for a nice pair if he tried them on.

post #573 of 1582
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Originally Posted by dugdalesghost View Post

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The burgundy and brightly colored shirt is a concern. It is one that really will mess up the whole thing. I have a couple different ideas. First, you could offer him the option of a "wardrobe change." For the wedding itself, keep it traditional, white or blue shirt. Then for the reception, allow him to do the burgundy shirt / tieless thing. I think he would probably be OK with that.

And I think that you have the right idea. Women have their ways to make a man feel good. Take him shopping, and splurge a little bit on a shirt. Make it your treat. I think most guys are afraid of looking like they 'care,' or, even worse, looking like they care about how they dress and get called out on it. I think that there is more than enough room for some middle ground. Take the suit with you as well, so that he can actually see what he looks like. You know how women pick out a blouse, hold it up against them, try it on with something that is close to what they would wear with it, see how it works with their complexion, etc.? Men don't do that. Heck, I don't do that. If I see a pattern that I like, in colors I like, I buy the shirt. And sometimes... it sits in my closet because I realize I own NOTHING that it works with. That is what men do. So bring the suit, go to a nice men's store, and buy him something you both agree on. I think he will respect your veto power, the same way you will respect his veto power. You have to nudge guys into this sort of thing, not go whole hog.
post #574 of 1582
What price range are you thinking for all of this? That would help with suggestions.

For boots, I know I will catch some flack for suggesting this, but I think it is a reasonable compromise--check out RM Williams or Rider Boots. Both of them make great boots, and heck, they will be better work boots than the ones he currently owns.
post #575 of 1582
This isn't bad, but it just screams daytime summer wedding, probably outdoors in a warm climate. Not Moscow in the winter.
post #576 of 1582

Thanks, Newcomer. Those are great suggestions. I agree that bringing the suit along and nudging, rather than going whole hog, is the right way to go. The dress change option might work, too.

 

I typically spend a fair amount on quality dress shoes for myself (classic black pumps, that sort of thing), and am totally willing to spend the same or more on him. Anything up to about the 600 dollar range would be fine, as he really does need them (we have a lot of other people's weddings coming up, for instance) and he would probably get use out of them for several years. He has only had really cheap dress shoes before, and I think would be more enthused about them if they were comfortable.

post #577 of 1582
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Originally Posted by dugdalesghost View Post

Thanks for your replies. I'm relieved that you don't think I'm being unreasonable.

Newcomer, I agree that the burgundy/brightly coloured shirt issue is the main concern. Unfortunately, I think that he will be more reluctant to give that idea up than wear a tie or buy new shoes. I like your idea of making it about him, though, and taking him somewhere nice to try a few things on. I really don't want to hurt his feelings any more than they already have been, and would prefer to show him how awesome he would look in a white or light blue shirt, instead of a burgundy one (and have him agree), rather than tell him straight out that he's not wearing a dark, coloured shirt with that suit. 

I think that my fiance is, as you say, one of those men who hasn't really been exposed to nicer clothes or ever thought about what he wears very much. He often identifies well-dressed men on the street, in movies, etc, and says how much he admires their style. However, he doesn't really know how to transfer what he admires to his own wardrobe or envision an outfit as a whole. Perhaps next time, I'll take the opportunity to point out that a lot of the men whose clothes he admires are wearing different color combinations than the ones he typically favours.

If you are taking what you are wearing to the wedding seriously, then he needs to as well. If he does not have a lot of knowledge on this topic, he should let you dress him so that his outfit meshes with how you envision the wedding.
post #578 of 1582
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Originally Posted by Newcomer View Post

For boots, I know I will catch some flack for suggesting this, but I think it is a reasonable compromise--check out RM Williams or Rider Boots. Both of them make great boots, and heck, they will be better work boots than the ones he currently owns.

No flack from me they are good suggestions.
post #579 of 1582
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Originally Posted by msulinski View Post


This isn't bad, but it just screams daytime summer wedding, probably outdoors in a warm climate. Not Moscow in the winter.

 

Ok, thanks. Blue then :)

post #580 of 1582
Medium purple and mauve are the only acceptable colors for daytime weddings.
post #581 of 1582

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Medium purple and mauve are the only acceptable colors for daytime weddings.

 

Umm? Is it for me?

Several gentlemen just told me that most appropriate colors for winter wedding are mid-gray and blue smile.gif

post #582 of 1582
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Originally Posted by babygreenspots View Post

Medium purple and mauve are the only acceptable colors for daytime weddings.

 

Medium purple and mauve what? Tie? Suit? Shirt?
I guess it really doesn't matter, since whatever your answer, it is wrong anyway.
post #583 of 1582

Need help choosing ties for my wedding and groomsmen.

This canali tie

http://www.mrporter.com/product/361301

 

or

 

This drakes tie

http://www.mrporter.com/product/337738

 

to be paired with a navy suit, white shirt and possibly these

http://meermin.es/ficha_articulo.php?id=4071

 

keep in mind its going to be a very casual wedding!.

 

Cheers,

 

Rory

post #584 of 1582
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Originally Posted by unever View Post

Need help choosing ties for my wedding and groomsmen.
This canali tie
http://www.mrporter.com/product/361301

or

This drakes tie
http://www.mrporter.com/product/337738

to be paired with a navy suit, white shirt and possibly these
http://meermin.es/ficha_articulo.php?id=4071

keep in mind its going to be a very casual wedding!.

Cheers,

Rory

Rory -

Read the opening post in this thread, and read the Styleforum 101 article linked to therein about groomsmen attire.

Having your guys in matching suits, white shirts, matching shoes and matching ties is not something you'll find endorsed here, and doesn't sound all that casual. The colour and texture of those shoes is very "country" and at odds with the rest of the outfit you describe.

In short - buy them each a different wedding tie, and ask them all to wear a navy suit and suitable shoes of their own choosing.
post #585 of 1582

Sorry, i should have been a bit clearer, they are wearing their own suits, shoes etc, it was more for myself (the groom).

Any thoughts on the Canali tie? Or any suggestions?

 

cheers

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