Option 1: "Wedding" tie, e.g. black-and-white tie in a small scale pattern (glen plaid, shepherd's check, houndstooth)
Option 2: Textured solid black or gray tie. e.g. grenadine, knit, wool/silk. Just don't wear a shiny satin, repp, etc.
Option 3: Black or gray pindot tie, preferable with texture.
Don't wear colors. Don't wear large-scale patterns.
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