Official Wedding Attire Question/Answer/Picture Thread

[unbelragazzo]

Note that I'm not suggesting a higher standard of dress necessarily. My alternative to rented formal wear is not necessarily bespoke formal wear - just the nicest stuff everybody has. The Sunday best, even though Sundays are now just for watching football. Adding touches like wedding ties, maybe a boutonnière, an odd waistcoat, a DB suit, can make it different than office wear in a nice way, but not required. But let yourself and your guests come as people, as individuals, rather than cake decorations.

 

[MrDaniels]

And again...outside of your refined social you might be surprised/ disgusted at one might consider "Sunday Best." Better to stick your Cousin Fred in a rental Joseph Abboud tux than have him go to Sears and buy an ugly suit that he won't have tailored. It is easier and more diplomatic to put every guy in the same suit than to say, "Hey Cousin Fred...that suit is two sizes too big...and the pants have way too much break....and that tie is clearly polyester...and no, black sneakers are not OK with a suit..."

If the bride/ groom/ bride's mother holy trinity has already settled on matching formalwear then let's make sure that they get good quality stuff that will fit not look like **** 20 years later. As opposed to saying "oh no....you just CAN'T rent formalwear!!!!."

 

[unbelragazzo]

I don't know why you think all my friends are so high class. In any case, if you're really worried about what someone might wear, then you can give them some gentle guidance. Guys that don't care enough to have a nice suit probably won't mind if you give them more direction. You can be clear that gents should wear dress shoes, and include pictures of what dress shoes look like if need be. Ties are common gifts from grooms to groomsmen.

Even if you have to buy yourself an outfit for one of the groomsmen, you could get it done reasonably for a few hundred bucks (things get much easier when you don't need them all to match). This is in comparison to forcing every one of them to spend $200, as well as a couple of hours picking up and dropping off the stuff. That's on top of having to wear something that looks worse than what you already own. In terms of convenience and expense to the party, rentals are obviously worse.

If the bride and MotB are fixated in formal wear, that's a separate issue. Then the groom just has to decide if he cares that much or not. But that's not really what we're discussing here.

 

[MrDaniels]



I don't know why you think all my friends are so high class.

My mistake! I just found a picture of some of the guys you hang with!

 

[unbelragazzo]

Umm...ok, I'm guessing that's from some TV show I've never seen. If you're asking whether I've ever gone bowling with guys wearing tshirts, the answer is yes.

 

[unbelragazzo]

Anyway, in the highly unlikely event that I ever got married, I have some friends that would wear a bespoke suit to it, some that would have to buy something to wear. I'd rather help the second group find something on eBay than force everybody to pay for rentals.

 

[archibaldleach]



I think it's a bunch of BS and will drive the photographer to madness and make the pictures look like crap.

Right. Because wedding photos from before the formalwear rental industry became prominent all look like crap and photographers never take good pictures of groups of people who are not wearing the exact same thing...

 

[MrDaniels]



Umm...ok, I'm guessing that's from some TV show I've never seen. If you're asking whether I've ever gone bowling with guys wearing tshirts, the answer is yes.

I bet they were bespoke.

 

[unbelragazzo]

Ok, now this seems to about me and my perceived elite social circle, so I'm going to sign off of this particular conversation and go tell my valet to hand wash my bespoke tshirts.

 

[MrDaniels]

Be sure he keeps the dust off of your made-to-measure shoelaces as well.

 

[aravenel]

MrDaniels, if you are going to start a flame war, you need to bring the heat. This is one of the lamest flames I've seen around here. Your arguments don't even make sense.

My block list grows larger by the day...

 

[aravenel]



The above point, as I see it: rented clothing (and the idea of perfectly-matched groomsmen) reeks of playing dress-up.

If everybody instead shows up wearing suits that fit properly in dark colors with white shirts and appropriate ties, it looks like a gathering of grown-ass men.

To me, it's about whether you want the feel of it to be like a middle school Christmas pageant, with the players dolled up in fancy dress costumes, or whether you want it to look like two adults, making a very serious promise to each other in front of their supporting friends and family. The turn to matching costumes has come along with thinking of the wedding as a kind of performance or production, which has been encouraged by the wedding planning industry, rather than a ceremony and a celebration.

This. Exactly this.

 

[El Argentino]

Case in point. Stumbled across this gem on FB today.

Nothing about this screams tasteful to me. It looks like a guy and his friends playing dress-up.

 

[alcantara11]

Opinions. Help. Fashion.

AWell i have this wedding i will be attending.
But i need help with a outfit i have in mind.

So i need your help to let me know if its a yes or no.
Turquoise dress pants, white dress shirt, beige sport coat, and if possible a bow tie? So whats your opinion? Feel free to ask any questions to get a better answer

 

[Budget]

Cross posting from the regular forum for advice:
After lurking on here for years I decided to join and ask for advice.

With my summer wedding quickly approaching I need confirmation/feedback as to the shoes that I should wear.

To start with I had my shirt and suit made by maxwells clothiers. I picked a light gray suit because it is a summer wedding and it's a look I've liked and have wanted to try out for a while. I will be wearing a white shirt and tie is to be determined (has to have some purple in it to go with the color theme of the wedding - feel free to make suggestions).

For shoes I want something rich in color, I am pretty set on a rich brown. I feel it may be a bit daring, especially with a light suit and this is why I am here asking you for feedback.

I love classic Allen Edmonds, these two in particular are my favourite:





I like these even more, but at $475 a pair, it's a bit steep for me.






The suit. I wore some existing brown shoes, hard to tell from the iphone pics. This is to reference the suit colour/fit (any input is welcome).












I saw this a long time ago and it stuck in my head, kind of the look I am going for: