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Hi, need some haircut advice please

post #1 of 5
Thread Starter 

Current haircut:

http://tinypic.com/r/6nqcg6/6

 

Hi, it's been 2 months since I've had my last haircut, so I'd appreciate some advice.

 

The one I usually have, and which I ask for, is very plain - relatively short, slightly shorter on the sides. I'm not too confident, and I'd like it if the haircut didn't catch too much attention (so some sort of undercut is not really an option).

 

I was thinking of maybe growing it longer (maybe a lot longer), but I'm not sure about that at all. 

 

 

Also, I'd really like to hear the reasoning behind:

Why my hair doesn't look that great at the moment, and why a certain haircut would look better instead. I'd like to get an idea of how haircuts work and how you can determine something like "this haircut would suit this guy, but it wouldn't suit this guy."

How to style your hair - what is point of it, and what sort of look are you trying to achieve (generally), as opposed to not styling your hair at all. Why does styling make your hair look better, when styled properly.

 

Basically, I'd just like to understand the 'theory' more. Right now when I see two haircuts, I can only tell they are different - if someone explained stuff like "this type of haircut keeps that part of the hair long, while the sides are very short, except for blabla..." that would be cool.

post #2 of 5
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Why my hair doesn't look that great at the moment,

You believe your hair doesn't look that great because you believe your hair doesn't look that great.  Not to get too Dr. Phil, but if you liked your hair the way it is now, and it garnished the attention and acceptance you require, you wouldn't be leaving a post.

 

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and why a certain haircut would look better instead.

Because its natural to try to look and feel better about ourselves.

 

Not to get too socio-philosophical, but personal style... (which really isn't that personal, and never born in a vacuum, since everyone in public adorns themselves in the same metaphorical way a peacock adorns colorful plumage)... is an extension of needing a certain amount of attention and acceptance from our peers, family, whomever. Granted, it seems that some of us need it more than others. 

 

Regardless, we all need attention and acceptance. That is the graduated "nurture" aspect within the nature vs. nurture equation.

And at the end of the day, no matter how aloof and indifferent humans may “act”, we are not that sophisticated, civilized, nor refined, that our DNA no longer contains this strong genetic trait.  We are social animals.  Period.

 

That is why... in some degree... you desire to look and feel better about yourself.  As do I and every other visitor to this site.

 

With all that being said, I am not going to engage in the paradoxical "why does it work on him, but not on me" argument.  Style and adornment is trial and error.  You wear a certain accessory and if it garnishes the attention you are looking for, you wear it again.  That is why Marilyn Manson gets his attention, and why George Clooney gets his.  Too very different styles, indeed, but with the same elementary result.  Although, there is a fine line between paragon and caricature.

 

So... my dear friend... may I submit that your picture reminds me of the actor Dominic Cooper.

You may be well served with this style and cut.

 

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Granted, this is all my opinion, and we all know the old axiom about opinions.

I'm sure your thread will garner many responses, but ultimately your hair is yours to do with what you want.

Good luck !

post #3 of 5
Thread Starter 

Thanks for the reply!

 

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You believe your hair doesn't look that great because you believe your hair doesn't look that great. Not to get too Dr. Phil, but if you liked your hair the way it is now, and it garnished the attention and acceptance you require, you wouldn't be leaving a post.

 

Well, not really, that's not what I mean. Hair  'attractiveness' can judged quite objectively to a certain point, and that's what I'm looking for. I don't really know whether my hair looks good/bad or how good/bad it is, or what makes it good/bad - however, I would definitely not call it 'great', that's all I can tell. If for not other reason that it's been ~2 months since my last haircut.

I don't really know why though, I can't explain it. It's the same with other people - I can only tell a girl "I just don't find your hair great", but if she asks me why, I can't tell her something like "it's because your hair style is too plain, this aspect makes this facial aspect stand out, which is not good, etc." - I don't see it like this. I feel like I can't really critique these things, and instead I can only judge if it looks good or not, whether the end result is something I find attractive or not. 

I'd like to be able to explain these things though, especially when it comes to my own hair. Or at least have get an idea of some concepts, that make some hair style attractive on some people.

 

So your advice is to try things and see what delivers the results I want? I guess it does come down to that. I'd just like to avoid spending too much time trying new things, only to see I don't like them :D - some time spent doing that is obviously unavoidable though.

 

About the picture you sent-

Why do you think the haircut suits him?

What exactly is his haircut? To me, it looks like his hair is ~short, and relatively shorter on the sides. What other things would be accurate descriptions of his haircut? (How does it differ from a haircut that's simply "overall short, shorter on the sides")

Is his hair styled with gel/anything?

post #4 of 5
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I don't really know whether my hair looks good/bad or how good/bad it is, or what makes it good/bad -

Then as a first step I suggest visiting a female stylist about your same age... not a "barber"... and asking for her advice and services.  She can convey what she likes.  She can also help you to "describe your haircut", so that you can relay the "style" to your established barber. 

 

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So your advice is to try things and see what delivers the results I want?

Again, style and preference do not exist in a vacuum.  We wear and do things in public to garner favorable attention.  Unfortunately... or fortunately... that requires trial and error.  Someone like a stylist, an honest female friend, this website, etc. can certainly help to get you started in that trial and error process.

 

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Why do you think the haircut suits him?

The Dominic Cooper photo simply suggests a "starting point"; someone who roughly matches your facial features via the photo you provided.  I am sure that you have been told throughout your life that you look like a certain celebrity or two.  They make great starting points for emulating style.  It doesn't have to be Dominic Cooper.

 

And, yes, I say "emulating style" since practically everything we do (or have ever done in the history of our species) is predicated upon the fact that, as social animals, we mimic our fathers, role models, whoever it may be that garners our attention.

 

Good luck.


Edited by Savile Row - 12/22/12 at 12:01pm
post #5 of 5
It should be a stylist, but it doesn't have to be a female. Someone new to the business might rely too much on her own tastes and not be able to articulate reasons. In this case, the problem is the boyishness of the haircut. The rounded, covering-much-forehead look overwhelms the face and obscures the chiseled lower face. Another thing to avoid would be a very short haircut, which could possibly be hypermasculine (off-putting to some people). There are many options between that, which come down to personal taste and possibly workplace norms.
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