(especially the part about pills)
I can't tell if this is really a serious thread or not, but I'll chime in. First off, asking advice on a topic like depression from a bunch of internet forum yahoos (myself included) on a style/fashion forum is, pardon the pun ... CRAZY. Absolutely NOT the place I would go to seek advice if I were really serious and thought I had a problem. However, since you asked ...
Are you suffering from depression? Yea, maybe. What I think you are definitely suffering from is a lack of purpose, direction, and motivation. Your situation (living at home, unemployed, single, etc) is not going to get any better unless you make a serious effort to change it. Going out and finding some head shrinker to medicate you isn't the answer. Were you depressed when things were going good in your life? Did you ever wake up back when you were doing the things that you liked and think, "Man, this life of mine sucks"? Your life sucks because you have nothing positive going on at this time.
First and foremost: GET A JOB. Any job. Be a productive part of society. Get on a schedule and stay busy. I've had many jobs that weren't great, but it didn't mean that I couldn't look for a better one WHILE I WAS WORKING. I love my kids, but I only want to raise them once. I damn sure don't want them living with me at your age. If unfortunate events caused me to have to live with my parents, I guarantee that they would not wash one dish, cut one blade of grass, or clean anything while I was living off of them. Do you do any work around the house?
Second: Keep to a schedule and by all means keep productive hours. Get your ass up every morning at 5. Go run and work out. You don't need a gym membership to work out. Finish your workout, eat, shower, and go look for a job. Every day. By 4pm, head home and clean your parents' house and cook or at least help cook dinner. Go to bed by 10pm. Repeat.
Lastly: Stay motivated and determined. Nothing good comes easy. You have to WANT to succeed. Success isn't going to knock on the door while you are lying around in your pajamas, with a grubby beard, eating pizza rolls and jerking off. Make it happen dude and don't take the easy way out and get medicated. Everyone is too quick to get on happy pills these days. Good luck - DMB
Thank you for this. My post was indeed real and serious.
I need to go to the gym in the morning. First and foremost. I need to get a real workout in before I start my daily job search. Shuffling out of bed and leisurely reading the morning paper has become a HORRIBLE habit of mine over the past few years.
When it comes to jobs, I need to start applying online. That's a given. Second, I need to look for headhunters and the like in my area and just get myself out there.
As for women and friends, it will come once I start doing shit with my life. The source of friends and lovers for most people is your job and hobbies. By not working and barely going out it's normal that I have no women in my life. Which of course just adds to my sadness.
I know what I need to do, I just need to start doing it. I appreciate all the replies here and welcome future ones. Thanks.
Headhunters and job finders are a good tool, but get out and pound the pavement yourself. If you do, you may stumble on a gem of a job that you never in your wildest dreams thought you would be interested in, by looking on the computer. It may turn out that you get the job, you come to love it, and your co workers are awesome. Also, like you stated, don't shuffle out of bed and leisurely waste away the morning. I promise you if you stay busy from sun up until sun down, you will not only feel like you have achieved something but also will increase your chances of succeeding in your quest. I forgot to mention in my first post; make a schedule for the day and adhere to it. Good luck man, I think you will do fine. You already recognize your problem and are seeking ways to correct it. That right there is half the battle. Drive on. - DMB.