I want to stop dressing like a kid, and more like a man. - Page 2
Great place for a first post.
I'm in the same boat. 18 years old from NYC and attending university in Massachusetts.
When it comes to dressing up I'd consider myself ahead of the curve but the opportunities to do so on campus are slim to none (barring some class presentations and the occasional interview).
In terms of everyday wear, Im trying to transition away from graphic tees and basketball sneakers to something more mature/upscale.
Luckily, money isn't tight but I'm still not going high-end as I don't yet have a career/any source of stable income.
I've been trying to fill my closet with the essentials (neutrals/navy) and picked up some more non-graphic staples (cardigans, polos) etc.
Just hear to learn.
My personal style has shot all over the place through the course of college. Freshman and sophomore years, I was obsessed with the SF "look." I wore APCs, plain tees or basic OCBDs, a TOJ leather or other simple jacket, and either boots or chucks (GATs weren't quite staples yet, I don't think). I picked up the denim for full price and then worked my ass off to find the rest. At times, you have to go against the forum recommendations (and, in doing so, I found a pair of Fryes that I really liked, that were cheap, and have really held up for three years with heavy wear).
Pay more attention to fit than anything else. The odds are that your clothes are too big. Make nice with a tailor. Look into Brooks Brothers slim and extra slim fits (they've worked really well for me) as well as other brands on clearance/sale. Try shit on before you buy it and be totally satisfied with a purchase before you take the tags off (I have a rule of leaving it in my closet for at least a week before I take the tags off).
But realize that there are NO hard and fast rules (outside of fit, I think). The forum opinion changes as readily as it gains and loses members. If you're not comfortable in raw denim/tshirt/GATs, then find other clothes that are of decent quality and play around. You'll make mistakes. Eventually, if you stick with it, you'll figure out what you like.
Finally, if you're dressing well to impress girls, stop. They don't care. Don't look like a slob and you'll get compliments. Compliments build confidence. Confidence wins people over.