Originally Posted by Augusto86
*moved from Social*
Wondering how many other (young) SFers are or have been in long(3+ years) relationships. This is sort of targeted to people before 23-24 because, well, that's where I fit in. I just often feel like the only person I know who is in a similar situation. Everyone else is "playing the field," and having been out of that game since my the end of my sophomore year(of high school, so age 15- age 20) I keep wondering if I'm missing something.
Some people will read this and go, good god man, you must be mad. Perhaps so. I haven't touched another girl in 5 years, but I have no regrets.
Still, I like to hear people's stories and views, as well as advice on where to go, and how long I can feasibly save up before buying "the rock." I don't to delay out of commitment issues, but out of the fact that I am broke, diabetic, a casual alcoholic and a helpless clotheshorse
Well, you are missing something, but probably not as much as others your age would have you believe. Everyone is different. Your needs are different than mine or your best friends'. If you're happy, forget about what everyone else is doing.
I've never particularly enjoyed playing the field. I find it tedious, but also felt it was something I had to do. I've enjoyed myself some of the time, but probably would have been happier had I spent the time in relationships. Now that I want a real relationship, I'm finding it hard to find a suitable girl... They don't come along whenever it suits you. It's numbers and luck. Dating more women doesn't necessarily mean you'll find one that's a better match for you than the one you've already found.
My opinion is that if you have someone that makes you happy, and that you could possibly have a future with, then don't piss it away because the perceived norm of the day is to sleep with dozens of women before you commit yourself in to a long-term relationship. Only you are positioned to really evaluate this, however.
There's a certain skepticism about young love that holds a lot of weight, but isn't universal. Just because Ratboy and VMan thought they were and weren't, doesn't mean their situations apply to your own.