Yeah, in general, don't talk about yourself unless she asks a question of you (they do like a little mystery in a man, you know). Talk for one minute and then stop. Show interest by asking her sensible questions and listening (i.e., keep your mouth shut while her mouth is moving). Putting on an air of "calmness" and being tastefully humorous will show her the confidence she is looking for in a man. And, I wouldn't hang out with her all night, lest you want to appear like a needy leach. Go away for a while and come back an hour later or so, like you are independently minded, looked around at all the other girls, and chose to come back to her because she was the best at the party. Then ask her if she wants to "get out of here and get a cup of coffee/a drink/dinner?" If she can't leave because she's there with girlfriends or whatever, say, "I UNDERSTAND, well, I've really enjoyed talking with you tonight. How about we get dinner/coffee/drinks sometime next week?" If she seems interested in that, ask her for her number. Then call her a few days later to arrange the evening out together. PAY for 100% of the date. Alternatively, you could approach her, introduce yourself, and ask, "So... you like cock?" I've never tried that alternative though...