Originally Posted by Fabienne
What's interesting to me in the US is that if I am in the middle of telling my son he should or shouldn't do something, people will often say "Oh, that's OK."
I actually caught myself doing this with a friend of mine. He and his children were visiting my home, and his children were doing something (I can't remember what) that I truly didn't find objectionable, but he did. He told them to stop, at which point I said to him, "Oh, that's okay. Don't worry about it." I think I said it to make him feel like his children weren't a problem and that he shouldn't worry. However, I quickly realized that this was probably a behavior he was trying to eliminate. I then said to him something like, "sorry, didn't mean to step onto your parenting ground."
As for this thread, when you see habitually poorly behaved children in public, blame the parents, not the kids. Of course, no child is going to be a perfect angel at all times, but that's to be expected. As was pointed out above, I've run into just as many rude and self-centered adults in public places as I have children. At least children have an excuse.