Originally Posted by Fisher Shard
I do not know what it is, but most of the women I have had crushes on down here in the south were White brunettes (and I do believe that is unfortunate).
My exposure to areas like NYC, California, and big cities in America is very limited.
I think these two are big components of your problem, though still that should not be a deal-breaker. I myself, though of Latin American descent, have often been confused for Persian or even South Asian, and have had no problems here in the Mid-Atlantic. I also know of both Pakistani and Indian men who have successfully dated white women, including some who have gone on to marry them.
I think there are a couple of issues:
1) There is some degree of reservation coming from people in the deep south, in general, however we might like to believe there isn't. This is less true in larger cities, but still true.
2) You seem to be drawn to a particular "type," and I am wondering if this is indicative of some of your own hangups / insecurities.
3) You think about this way too much. You should be focused on being your own man, and then growing into yourself will eliminate some of these difficulties.
If indeed you are good-looking, as you say, you should not have any problem once the other issues are fixed. People can do very well by dressing well, but more importantly it is better to know how to dress appropriately. Depending on where you are and in what situation, wearing a sharp outfit may be out of place if the styling is not suited to the norms of the area and demographic you are trying to appeal. A most important thing is to be confident in your own person and wear it well, to own whatever you do put on; this extends to your attitude generally, and will prevent you from coming off as smarmy or creepy. There is a fine line between confident, cocky, and aggressive. If you are already coming off as different and perhaps stretching someone's boundaries, coming off as aggressive or pushy will be even more of a setback than it would be for others (especially waspy men).
Aside from all of the superficial things, though, I think it's important to look at your goals. What are you trying to achieve? If you're just trying to bed hot blondes, then by all means keep on revising and revisiting the above. If you're actually looking for more-than-physical relationships, then it's important to have something to offer. Being super insecure is not going to help. You need to figure out what you really like (not just what you use to lure women), and what you really care about, and then don't be shy about discussing or showing these interests and values. That is more attractive than almost anything else. It will definitely help to be in an area with more open-minded people, but sometimes being a unicorn can be its own advantage.
Bottom line: don't worry about it.