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post #16 of 74
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Originally Posted by Fraiche View Post

My friend is Pakistani and married a white girl.
You seem to be smart enough to know that you need to improve yourself in order to be more attractive, so that's not the issue.
However, your main problem is internal. You believe you can't do it. This is an area where intelligence is a hindrance. Dumb people never think about these things, they just do things they want to do.
In other words, you need to dumb yourself down and stop thinking. Just start asking girls out.
Try this: try to get rejected 5 times in 1 day when asking a girl out. You'd be surprised how difficult it is.

that is a good strategy, I mean I guess it can work wonders for the mindset of mines

 

don't know how it got to be this way in the first place but I will try it when I head out to a big campus

post #17 of 74
What about that guy Fez from the 70's Show? confused.gif He definitley gets white women, although this may have more to do w/ his reputedly being well-endowed
post #18 of 74
I have, the motherfucker took the girl from me after a couple dates. I was not pleased.
post #19 of 74
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Originally Posted by romafan View Post

What about that guy Fez from the 70's Show? confused.gif He definitley gets white women, although this may have more to do w/ his reputedly being well-endowed

 

uh isn't he Colombian or something?

post #20 of 74
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Originally Posted by momentoftruth View Post

uh isn't he Colombian or something?

With a name like Fez? confused.gif It's really the guy's outward appearance that matters here, not his country of birth. I'm sure there are 'dot' Indians who were born in Peoria! In any event, this guy would not look out of place taking your order down on 6th Street....
post #21 of 74
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Originally Posted by Fisher Shard View Post

 

I do not know what it is, but most of the women I have had crushes on down here in the south were White brunettes (and I do believe that is unfortunate).

 

My exposure to areas like NYC, California, and big cities in America is very limited.

 

I think these two are big components of your problem, though still that should not be a deal-breaker.  I myself, though of Latin American descent, have often been confused for Persian or even South Asian, and have had no problems here in the Mid-Atlantic.  I also know of both Pakistani and Indian men who have successfully dated white women, including some who have gone on to marry them.

 

I think there are a couple of issues:

 

1) There is some degree of reservation coming from people in the deep south, in general, however we might like to believe there isn't.  This is less true in larger cities, but still true.

2) You seem to be drawn to a particular "type," and I am wondering if this is indicative of some of your own hangups / insecurities.

3) You think about this way too much.  You should be focused on being your own man, and then growing into yourself will eliminate some of these difficulties.

 

If indeed you are good-looking, as you say, you should not have any problem once the other issues are fixed.  People can do very well by dressing well, but more importantly it is better to know how to dress appropriately.  Depending on where you are and in what situation, wearing a sharp outfit may be out of place if the styling is not suited to the norms of the area and demographic you are trying to appeal.  A most important thing is to be confident in your own person and wear it well, to own whatever you do put on; this extends to your attitude generally, and will prevent you from coming off as smarmy or creepy.  There is a fine line between confident, cocky, and aggressive.  If you are already coming off as different and perhaps stretching someone's boundaries, coming off as aggressive or pushy will be even more of a setback than it would be for others (especially waspy men).

 

Aside from all of the superficial things, though, I think it's important to look at your goals.  What are you trying to achieve? If you're just trying to bed hot blondes, then by all means keep on revising and revisiting the above.  If you're actually looking for more-than-physical relationships, then it's important to have something to offer.  Being super insecure is not going to help.  You need to figure out what you really like (not just what you use to lure women), and what you really care about, and then don't be shy about discussing or showing these interests and values.  That is more attractive than almost anything else.  It will definitely help to be in an area with more open-minded people, but sometimes being a unicorn can be its own advantage.

 

Bottom line: don't worry about it.

post #22 of 74
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Originally Posted by Fisher Shard View Post

things work differently in the deep south

you don't see any interracial couples involving White women

but I will try to get advice regardless

You're a boring idiot. The South is the second to the West in percentage of mixed-race couples.
post #23 of 74
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Originally Posted by Fisher Shard View Post

things work differently in the deep south

you don't see any interracial couples involving White women

but I will try to get advice regardless

Shut up about the "Deep South." Every time you make a post that includes those words, they're either preceded or followed by some tired-ass, ignorant stereotype.

Also, regarding your other threads about school, when you transfer to whatever school it is in the SEC you intend to grace with your presence, please start a thread and report on your success. Speaking as someone who is intimately familiar with college-town life in the SEC, I'm quite certain your condescending, region-bashing shitheadedness is going to go a long, long way to making you a BMOC who spends his evenings knee-deep in pussy and parties.
post #24 of 74
Eh, well guys I'm from the South and am a racial minority and I think he's right about white women being more hesitant to date outside their race. Certainly middle and upper middle class women as compared with other parts of the US
post #25 of 74
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Originally Posted by FLMountainMan View Post

You're a boring idiot. The South is the second to the West in percentage of mixed-race couples.
says the white hispanic smile.gif
post #26 of 74
In Toronto, I'm beginning to see East Indian and Chinese couples which ten years ago was not very common to me. But East Indian and black, white, etc. was something I've seen for years. I grew up with a childhood friend who had a Kenyan father and Indian mother.
post #27 of 74
LOL with "fez"... This is how you know you're old... We know him from 'That 70s Show', kids today know him as Handy fuckin Manny
post #28 of 74
Being desi myself, the answer to the OP's question is - yes I know many desi guys who get white girls. However in his case it's probably not going to happen, judging by his posts he's waaaaay too self conscious, so he's already sabotaged himself before he's even started.

Some desi guys can get white girls, and some can't. My casual observation is the ones who can are typically not self-conscious, good at talking to girls in general, and don't put white girls up on a pedestal as being unattainable or being a whole different species. The ones who can't are a bit creepy (you can just see the pervy thoughts running through their heads on their face when they see a white girl), a bit fobby, sometimes with less than optimal hygeine, and obsess about "white girls." Nothing turns women off like desperation. The OP should grade himself and see which of these two categories he's leaning towards.

For pete's sake stop making more threads about this - it's just getting ridiculous.
Edited by FidelCashflow - 11/17/12 at 4:53pm
post #29 of 74
Thread Starter 

Wow, much to my surprise the posts on here were actually heavily helpful, thank you CesarC, you are my favorite user on here now. Thank you so much.

 

How surprising, the Indian guy is the one that is hard on me than anyone else. I don't doubt for a second he is one of those kids who grew up in London or Toronto and has little to no idea how it is like being a minority in general in the deep south. I always have a bad experience with other Indians online, most of the guys have no real life experience and probably got pandered to as kids.

 

As for my looks, I got voted into Beautifulpeople.com and have received winks from women in Brazil and Russia so I guess that is going somewhere.

 

As for the south, maybe Atlanta and college towns are different but in my area, most girls who are decent looking and White will hardly ever date a White guy, unless he is a White Latino (Messi for example).

 

Why am I insecure about being Indian?

 

1. Living down south as a minority (most women are White), me and my Black, Asian, and Brown Hispanic friends rarely have success dating interracial.

 

2. On the internet, I have read NOTHING but how bad Indian men have it dating in the US, UK, Canada, and even Western Europe (where women run at the sight of seeing one apparently)

 

So I posted this for some information and getting to know how bad it is in other areas of not only America but even the world.

post #30 of 74
Regardless of the reason, few women are attracted to insecurity.
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