I'm a relative newcomer to this site, but the forums here have been invaluable in educating myself about how to build a wardrobe of good suits. Now, however, I'm hoping all of you can help with some wedding-related questions.
I'm getting married in January and intend to buy a tuxedo for that illustrious event. I want to wear a vest/waistcoat, but as most of the OTR tuxedos that I've considered (in my price range of < $ 1000) lack a vest, I've had to look for a standalone vest in my preferred style: a traditional three-button vest with oblong/shawl lapels. Specifically, I'd like to wear a white pique vest, instead of black silk. This, however, leads to a few questions:
(1) Is a backless white vest more common, or more proper, than a backed white vest? The BlackTieGuide website and my own research suggest that backless is the norm -- BB, Ede & Ravenscroft, Lord West, etc., sell backless vests, while I could find only one vendor, Oliver Brown, that offers a backed white vest. Does anyone have actual experience.that may shed light on the back vs. backless issue?
(2) I want to to wear mother-of-pearl square studs set in silver for my tuxedo shirt (which, if relevant, has a wing-collar). Will that clash with the round white buttons of the white vest (or, in the case of some of the UK retailers noted above, round mother-of-pearl buttons)? Should I switch to round studs?
-a picture of the type of square studs I mean is: http://www.brookstone.com/silver-mother-of-pearl-jfk-pres-tuxedo-stud-set?bkiid=SearchResults|CategoryProductList|769196p (I can't find a picture online of the studs that actually interest me, but these are close)
-my fallback set of round studs (the designer makes the square studs that actually interest me): http://www.cufflinksdepot.com/p/H96866202/Sterling+Silver+Pearl+Stud+Set.html
(3) If I'm wearing the traditional style of vest, do my groomsmen need to match that style? What about the color -- if I wear a white vest, do they also have to wear white vests, or is it appropriate for them to wear black vests?
(4) The tuxedo will have peak, satin lapels. If I wear the white pique vest, should I get a "matching" black pique bow tie (assuming that even exists), or do I stick with a black silk bowtie to match the lapels?
I'd appreciate any assistance you could offer on these questions....