How terrible does social life after college become? (worried 20 year old sheltered as a teenager) - Page 2

I once lived in Mississippi. Nothing happened and I was not happy. I moved to SoCal where I finished college and I'm still in love with the area. Things of consequence happen in California. You can feel it.

I'm happy out of college. I think it kills the social life for men who drink and womanize a lot, then just drop off the cliff after graduation. Out of college I made friends with people decades older than me with no problem, and if I want to do something interesting or adventurous, SoCal offers more weekend traveling options than anywhere in America. All the talk of no social life after college is very exaggerated.

I think the comment was referring to the attitude of the first post rather than subsequent posts. There's a sort of self-pitying, "woe is me" feel to it, mingled with self-doubt. Don't project that at your new school.

 

That being said, clearly that's not all you are. You've been proactive, and actions speak louder than words. The gist of it all is: be the guy who said "this is bullshit. I'm going to a new school with a more active social life" instead of being the guy who said "I'm worried that I won't have enough time to make friends and meet girls."

 

And like everybody else said, join clubs and groups. Also...the whole "bonding in the first year thing" is only true about small liberal arts schools (anywhere with an attendance of less than 5,000). Big schools like the one you are transferring to, people are in a constant state of making new friends. Nobody will care they you are a junior.

 

Good luck. If you do the right things, as well as hide your insecurity (as opposed to trying to compensate for it or pretend to be someone you aren't...that can backfire), you'll have no problem.

Meet girl/guyl. Take penis. Insert in girl/guy. Problem solved!

I love (and endorse) the covering of all bases in this post.

It doesn't quite cover all the bases.

Meet guy/girl/any legally fuckable entity possessing an appropriately fuckable orifice. Insert in guy/girl/any legally fuckable entity possessing an appropriately fuckable entity.

Legally.. rookie mistake.

We should not endorse, neither explicitly nor through insinuation, any sort of illegal activity on this forum.
 

Some people prefer to be the catcher rather than the pitcher too; if this were not the case, sexual relations would happen quite a bit less often than they do.

Check and mate, sir. Check and... ... ...mate.

 

Also

 

That has been my problem more often than not: I mate without checking first.

As long as your careful of queens, because under those skirts, there's often a king.

My problem is that too often I take it for granted that the "queen" is a "king." When it turns out she's not, I have to make a very quick adjustment to the new circumstances.

The ability to adapt is key to a good mate. Look at the games between Kasparav and Deep "Throat" Blue (called such because the computer always went for the throat in a game), several of which were won because of Blue's between game adaptation. A great example is Blue's successful penetration of Kasparav's defenses (caro-kann, I think).

 

I laud your flexibility, but given an admitted tendency to make mistakes, I must question your strategic prowess. Though I suppose in all things chess, a successful mating is all that matters.

 

OP, you paying attention here? Life lessons all over the place.