For the past 2 years (counting this semester that makes it 2.5 years), I have been at what we call a "commuter school" which is a 4 year university with not much of a dorm life and most students being all over the age range. I have also been living at home (with my parents) while going to college.\
I have finished 63 credit hours (need 120 to graduate), will have 77 by the end of this semester.
Currently I am a 20 year old kid (turned 20 about 2 months ago) and at my current university I have not had much luck getting that much of a social life going. Many of my friends who have been here have said similar things and I have found that I cannot grow here at all. It has been disappointing here, although I have made academic progress, I have not been this miserable at any time in my life and I set my eyes on transferring. Lots of people who work after classes, hard to get any social life going unless you pay money to be in frats, even then there are no frat houses so it is pretty pointless.
The college is 6 minutes from my house, plan was to go there for 2 years and then transfer but then some complications happened (not going to get much into that).
I am pretty much set on transferring (parents and I have agreed it is for the best) and have my things together. I am deciding between two colleges (been accepted to one). Both are residential campuses, both have majority of the student population in the 18-22 range, and both sound better than the college I go to right now (visited both and they were great).
Now my main concern are things I have read online about college transfers. The colleges I am picking between are both in college towns, one was ranked a top 10 party school. I have read that college transfers struggle to get a social life since most people make friends in college during their freshman year. This worries me. I want to know how difficult it would be for me, transferring this late, to get a social life going which includes a large circle of friends and such.
I have not had much of a chance for a social life throughout my life due to parents moving around A LOT and me going to a high school with only 300 kids.
I understand that you guys are inclined to give advice like "hay focus on grades forget about social life" or "what are your future plans?". Thing is, I am not looking for that type of information and advice. I am looking for advice from guys who know how typical 4 year colleges are like and how much being an upperclassman can limit your social life.