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Is he now expected not just to attend these events, but to become a visible contributor to charities? If he has been promoted to the point of representing the firm, is he really resisting the expense of the donations that would be far more than even the most expensive tux? At some point he has to decide how much he has to conform to advance his career. Sometimes conformity costs mo eg. He sounds more than bright enough to figure out his priorities.
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Originally Posted by dbhdnhdbh View Post

Is he now expected not just to attend these events, but to become a visible contributor to charities? If he has been promoted to the point of representing the firm, is he really resisting the expense of the donations that would be far more than even the most expensive tux? At some point he has to decide how much he has to conform to advance his career. Sometimes conformity costs mo eg. He sounds more than bright enough to figure out his priorities.

This is the fundamental issue. I personally find it infuriating that such intrusions in personal space (seriously, we're being told what to wear everywhere?? and a deviation instantly translates into judgement of character??) are not only accepted as normal, but also celebrated. I would not be surprised if he doesn't care about the money at all, it's just his little, sad, passive-agressive way to rebel. Better than just taking it up the ass, i suppose.
Exhibit # 2,345,600 on the dictatorial nature of the workplace.
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This is the fundamental issue. I personally find it infuriating that such intrusions in personal space (seriously, we're being told what to wear everywhere?? and a deviation instantly translates into judgement of character??) are not only accepted as normal, but also celebrated. I would not be surprised if he doesn't care about the money at all, it's just his little, sad, passive-agressive way to rebel. Better than just taking it up the ass, i suppose.
Exhibit # 2,345,600 on the dictatorial nature of the workplace.

If he has that much of a problem with it, he shouldn't be working on Wall Street. That's the nature of the beast, and he knew it going in. It was his decision.
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I don't have a moral objection to firms insisting that executives participate in charitable events, just trying to understand the situation.

 

 

He might now be sufficiently senior that his conduct, including charitable activities, reflects on the firm. If so, and the firm takes these things seriously, then he will have to get with the program if he wants move up. Of course, if no one takes it seriously, and it is just a chance to go to a few parties, then perhaps no one cares. If they take the charities seriously, but not so much being seen there, then he may be able to make even larger donations- and get credit for that- without having to show up in a monkey suit. In any case, renting a tux sounds like a bad move. He can buy one for less than the rental price. I suspect no one rents particularly nice tuxedos, so he is probably going to appear in something fairly low brow either way. If the firm cares about that, then he may have to suck it up and come to event dressed as they expect. As others have pointed out, suits are not cheap either, and he wears them to work because he has to. This does not seem any different.

 

And he should be grateful he is in a position to be able to give to charity, rather than having to rely on it.

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