Hi everyone. I am having a problem figuring something out. I am on the road to dating a girl named J. We have been out three times. I find her attractive, we get along, she is definetly GF potential. When we went out she has at least playfully tried to hit me. The only thing that is negative is that I have to instigate all our social outings so far. There is another girl at work named M, that I find myself attracted to we talked about running together. I am starting to find myself daydreaming about kissing M. I think that both girls are even when it comes to looks. The flirtation between them both is even. I am Black, M is black and J is east Indian. J has on the surface the classic look that I like in my woman. She is a sharp dresser and is nice and kind, slender and short hair. M is slender too and fits into my looks in a woman as well. I guess the difference between them is that I feel more sexually charged in M's presence. J is attractive and I see her as someone I would like to bring out with me on a date. I will give you another analogy, if you have ever seen the movie Kiss the girls, with Morgan Freeman, and Ashley Judd. J reminds me of Ashley Judd. M reminds me of Angela Basette in Wainting to exhale. M is basically cool and flirtatious. J is more friendly. I guess in my mind J is pretty, and M is sexy. I don't know if I could just be friends with both. I am in a time in my life at 31 where I want to settle down in a LTR. Weither it lasts or not is not relevent at this time. Any suggestions on how I should play it. I know that you all say go out with both. I am a person who loves physical affection. I also love talking and conecting as well. keep in mind both are in the begging stages of a relationship inwhich a friendship is not defined.
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10/9/02 at 8:24pm