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What kind of jacket to wear to walk around within school building?

mcbrown

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To anyone who thinks "we don't get it" re: dress on campus, bear in mind that most of us did go to college at some point. I'm sure most people on campus today don't give any thought to their dress, any more than they did back when I went to college before the Civil War. Guess what? Neither do most other people in the world. The "problem" you describe of dressing "differently" is exactly the same for anyone at any age. Even if you work in an office where everyone wears conservative business dress, people will notice the differences between various peoples' attire more than the similarities. Instead of standing out for the simple act of wearing a jacket, you'll stand out for wearing french cuffs, or having a dimple in your tie, or having well-shined shoes. That's just the way the world is - if you choose to care about your style more than your peers, eventually you will stand out, on-campus or off-campus. So what you're really saying when you say "oh you don't understand there's so much peer pressure on campus but I want to dress well woe woe woe is me" is that (a) you want to dress better than your peers, but (b) you're afraid to dress better than you're peers, so (c) you want us to come up with a magic style solution that will make you both stand out and blend in simultaneously. Sorry, that solution doesn't exist. If you want to dress better, dress better. If you want to blend in, blend in. I don't give a crap which you choose. But just make up your mind and stop complaining that it's so freaking hard.
 

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To anyone who thinks "we don't get it" re: dress on campus, bear in mind that most of us did go to college at some point. I'm sure most people on campus today don't give any thought to their dress, any more than they did back when I went to college before the Civil War. Guess what? Neither do most other people in the world. The "problem" you describe of dressing "differently" is exactly the same for anyone at any age. Even if you work in an office where everyone wears conservative business dress, people will notice the differences between various peoples' attire more than the similarities. Instead of standing out for the simple act of wearing a jacket, you'll stand out for wearing french cuffs, or having a dimple in your tie, or having well-shined shoes. That's just the way the world is - if you choose to care about your style more than your peers, eventually you will stand out, on-campus or off-campus.
So what you're really saying when you say "oh you don't understand there's so much peer pressure on campus but I want to dress well woe woe woe is me" is that (a) you want to dress better than your peers, but (b) you're afraid to dress better than you're peers, so (c) you want us to come up with a magic style solution that will make you both stand out and blend in simultaneously. Sorry, that solution doesn't exist. If you want to dress better, dress better. If you want to blend in, blend in. I don't give a crap which you choose. But just make up your mind and stop complaining that it's so freaking hard.

Clapping.
 

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When I said 'looking gay' I meant something like the outfits you might see on lookbook
http://lookbook.nu/top

Find a better word and you'll sound less bigotty.

EDIT: I just went through 20 pages on that site you linked to and didn't see any guy in a business suit, let alone a casual sports jacket. W T F are you talking about?
 
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lemmywinks

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Find a better word and you'll sound less bigotty.

EDIT: I just went through 20 pages on that site you linked to and didn't see any guy in a business suit, let alone a casual sports jacket.  W T F are you talking about?


Or you guys could stop trying to be so damn PC.

I meant if a dude wanted to dress up and look different from the regular t-shirt and jeans guy, he can either go a route where he looks overdressed by wearing suits/ties/button up shirts, or go a route where he dresses in really skinny clothing and look all hipster and 'gay,' or dress up in some real designer **** but end up looking like a goth ninja.

Whereas girls have sundresses, skirts, dresses, jean shorts, blouses, tank tops, sweaters, cardigans etc., whatever. Girls have a lot more freedom on how to dress whereas guys are really restricted to a few items (compared to girls)
 

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Or you guys could stop trying to be so damn PC.
I meant if a dude wanted to dress up and look different from the regular t-shirt and jeans guy, he can either go a route where he looks overdressed by wearing suits/ties/button up shirts, or go a route where he dresses in really skinny clothing and look all hipster and 'gay,' or dress up in some real designer **** but end up looking like a goth ninja.

You keep sounding like a bigot to those of us who are gay. Or have gay loved ones and friends.Is that "PC"? -- not liking something that describes us or our loved ones in a pejorative way? OK, then I'm "PC."

So keep using the term and keep sounding like a bigot. Heck, maybe you are a bigot. I don't know, but your continued use of gay as an insult makes you sound like it.

That's your problem.
 
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ircfas133

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"Full suit"? Stop with the straw man arguments. Has anyone here said undergrads should walk around in full suits?

Second being worried about "looking gay" is kind of lame, and maybe a little bigoted. I know you're a kid, but grow up. And also ask yourself, if anyone is ribbing you about looking gay, what kind of person are they? And also are they male or female?




You need to stop taking your own insecurities and imagining other people are projecting them onto you. Maybe they care, maybe they don't. Get some confidence. Dressing a little nicer than average is not a big deal.

And also be more precise: are your schoolmates actually commenting on your clothes or not?

I recall that I did receive some compliments from my classmates after I wear a SC to class. But I feel a little bit uneasy afterwards because it made realize that I'm dressing in a different way than all others (except a few international students from Europe). Before coming back to school, I was working in a New York professional firm, so I have no choice but to wear OCBD to work. Unless it was a year-end party, only partners wear SC.

Thank you for pointing out insecurity issue; that is something I'm working on in order to be congruent.
 
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