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post #31 of 48
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Originally Posted by LA Guy View Post

This, and I'd like to say that it's also the unconditional love you feel for your kids as well - nothing like it.

+1

Its unreal the way you feel about them. No comparison is adequate. I have plenty of regrets but having kids is not one.
post #32 of 48
Thread Starter 
Well, I guess I feel a little better now about the possibility....hopefully it's not a problem we'll encounter for awhile to come (no pun intended). It seems like maybe the switch will just flip in the next few years and I'll be more ready to be a father.
post #33 of 48
In part the switch may flip in those 9 months. The romcoms* depicting impending parenthood with all that it entails are based on the way it happens for a lot of men/couples.

*To my shame I have seen 9 months, knocked up and in the last year something with Robert D. Jr.
post #34 of 48
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Originally Posted by topcatny View Post

We waited 3 years after we were married before we had kids which helped me be more ready. We had the chance to travel a bit, enjoy being newlyweds etc. before having kids. Now I can't imagine my life without them. Sure, I'd have more money and more time to myself but the unconditional love I get from my kids makes every crappy day at work and every disappointment that happens bearable. It's not always easy but I would definitely do it all over again.

 

yeah loads of that   -   still single digits?    plain.gif

 

For the record, no regrets at all here  smile.gif

post #35 of 48
I'm only 22 but I can never see myself having kids in the foreseeable future..
post #36 of 48
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Originally Posted by hoozah View Post

I'm only 22 but I can never see myself having kids in the foreseeable future..

 

Same here, for many reasons. I have a horrible father and have a great fear if somehow I might turn out the exact same way as a parent. Also the responsibility for a human being seems overwhelming, I can see myself being a cool uncle but nothing more than that.

post #37 of 48
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Originally Posted by YOLO EMSHI View Post

Also the responsibility for a human being seems overwhelming.....

This is probably what I'm most afraid of; the responsibility. I've had bad experiences with pets so I can't imagine all the missteps I'd take with a human.
post #38 of 48
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Originally Posted by Neo_Version 7 View Post

This is probably what I'm most afraid of; the responsibility. I've had bad experiences with pets so I can't imagine all the missteps I'd take with a human.

It's a learning experience that makes the whole trip worthwhile and one that opens up a whole new world. You'd be amazed at what you can do when a child is placed in your care. Of course, one has to be mentally able to undertake such a task, children are not for everyone.
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post #40 of 48
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Originally Posted by WhateverYouLike View Post

Saw this article today and made me think of this thread

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2303588/The-mother-says-having-children-biggest-regret-life.html#ixzz2PuPJefdS

This is nothing new as I'm sure a few SFer's mothers feel the same way.
post #41 of 48
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Originally Posted by WhateverYouLike View Post

Saw this article today and made me think of this thread

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2303588/The-mother-says-having-children-biggest-regret-life.html#ixzz2PuPJefdS

It sounds like she'd be miserable no matter what. Children are just a convenient scapegoat.
post #42 of 48
Kids are terrific. As Globe said, timing is key.

I know people who had a bunch of kids while they were young and going to school. It was hard on the parents, hard on the kids.

We timed it so that we had our first just as I was graduating from law school and getting my first real job.

Worked out well. We had 4 in all. They're the best part of my life and I'm really proud of all of them. They're at an age now, where the older ones are becoming my peers, and we're terrific friends.

Now, I'm looking forward to grandkids.
post #43 of 48
Every time I consider that I might want kids I end up witnessing some kid going completely nuts and turning over chairs and throwing food as the parents chase after it. Which usually causes me to decide that I'll wait as long as possible.
post #44 of 48
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Originally Posted by FLMountainMan View Post

It sounds like she'd be miserable no matter what. Children are just a convenient scapegoat.
This.
post #45 of 48
I'm 31, engaged, and the idea of kids still terrifies me. There's too much I want to do right now and in the near future, but someday I'm sure it will happen.

I have known a lot of people that grew up and never left their shitty hometown, intentionally had kids in their early 20's and will live there the rest of their lives. That baffles me, it truly does, but I guess some people are content with that.
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