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Originally Posted by Pingson View Post

I do it about two-three times a year, usually when moving things in or out of seasonal storage. Sometimes it hurts donating a piece I really like. Yesterday I dumped a shirt I really like the look of but where the sleeves are not right (about 0.5" too short) . I will always feel uncomfortable wearing it so it 's best to purge it from the wardrobe.

I know that feeling. Had a really nice red shirt that I really liked but it was one size too small in the collar and couldn't button it up properly when wearing a tie. I think that was also the first piece of clothing that got 'cut from the team'.

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I have done this at least twice where I got rid of everything except the clothes on my back. Furniture and everything, too.

 

Now that's taking it to the extreme. Everything else? (I'm getting ideas about job, city, wife, kids, car, phone...;) )

post #32 of 40
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I'm actually quite surprised that so many people have done such a 'radical' change to their wardrobes. I didn't expect that. But after reading all these replies, I'm starting to look at my own...certain articles of clothing are starting to look nervous ;)

post #33 of 40
For me it was part of a bigger life change. I realised that buying clothing and collecting clothing were two symptoms of depression. I had to make a concious choice that I would only own things that I wore instead of buying things for the thrill of owning something new.

I then took the $1,000 a month odd that I was spending and put it towards experiences with my friends. Sometimes this "hobby", "habit" and "vice" of ours can slip into obsessive behaviour. The constant cull helps to alleviate this by routinely severing unhealthy attachments to garments that don't have a function.

The question must always be "do I love wearing my clothes, or do I just love having them?"
post #34 of 40
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Originally Posted by Reevolving View Post

Ebay?

Same deal.
post #35 of 40
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I have normally made small semi-annual purges. If it is something i rarely wear, i don't need it. The process has been coupled with a move away from impulse buying and has resulted in a more carefully curated wardrobe. Plus the initial Men's Clothing Classified's "buy it because it is [insert brand name here] and it is [insert % here] off retail!" behavior peaked early and faded.
But i am in the process of my first complete purge. It is motivated by practicality: getting to and maintaining a target weight for nearly two years and finally recognizing that RTW regular and many short jackets do not work for me. So all of it goes save for my shoes.
Suits, jackets, ties and pents have been carefully replaced by bespoke because I am no longer willing to compromise on fit.

Been there and done that - in fact I am in the middle of a longer overhaul that will gradually replace my old RTW suits with MTM and bespoke items, over and above the seasonal purges of clothes that I just don't wear anymore. I have also come to realize that when everything fits and you really like the items, you get around on a much smaller wardrobe than when you have a lot of so-so items...

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For me it was part of a bigger life change. I realised that buying clothing and collecting clothing were two symptoms of depression. I had to make a concious choice that I would only own things that I wore instead of buying things for the thrill of owning something new.
I then took the $1,000 a month odd that I was spending and put it towards experiences with my friends. Sometimes this "hobby", "habit" and "vice" of ours can slip into obsessive behaviour. The constant cull helps to alleviate this by routinely severing unhealthy attachments to garments that don't have a function.
The question must always be "do I love wearing my clothes, or do I just love having them?"

This is something I also struggle with. There's a certain kick in buying a new clothing item and the bespoke process certainly does not give the same "quick fix" - when you have to wait a couple months to see the final product "instant gratification" no longer works. With bespoke it is more about the process rather than the end result (although that matters of course!) and that has takes time to get used to.
post #36 of 40
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Now that's taking it to the extreme. Everything else? (I'm getting ideas about job, city, wife, kids, car, phone...wink.gif )
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May I ask why you did that? Were there events in your life at the time? Just curious...how did you feel afterwards?

I opened the door to my apartment and told neighbors and passersby to take whatever they wanted and I had some nice stuff. I left the key with the super and bounced. Found another place and started all over again. You don't know how lightweight you feel when you have left everything behind.

Another time, fresh off of a brief stint in jail I went to 145th street, bought a Carhartt jacket, Champion sweater, Levis and a pair of Vasque boots. Socks and drawers also. I changed in the store and threw out what I had on. Walked to the precinct to pick up my cellphone. My car, girl, job, apartment, clothes and all other possessions were behind me. All I had is a good amount in the bank and a blank slate. Shortly later a got a good job, met my wife, got the best place I've ever had and the car I always wanted. I am very fortunate.

Sometimes it's good to just hit the reset button.
post #37 of 40
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For me it was part of a bigger life change. I realised that buying clothing and collecting clothing were two symptoms of depression. I had to make a concious choice that I would only own things that I wore instead of buying things for the thrill of owning something new.
I then took the $1,000 a month odd that I was spending and put it towards experiences with my friends. Sometimes this "hobby", "habit" and "vice" of ours can slip into obsessive behaviour. The constant cull helps to alleviate this by routinely severing unhealthy attachments to garments that don't have a function.
The question must always be "do I love wearing my clothes, or do I just love having them?"

True, and surprisingly eye-opening.
post #38 of 40
Interesting. Whenever I have had depression I do the exact opposite. Feel I don't need anything and wither away.
post #39 of 40
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For me it was part of a bigger life change. I realised that buying clothing and collecting clothing were two symptoms of depression. I had to make a concious choice that I would only own things that I wore instead of buying things for the thrill of owning something new.
I then took the $1,000 a month odd that I was spending and put it towards experiences with my friends. Sometimes this "hobby", "habit" and "vice" of ours can slip into obsessive behaviour. The constant cull helps to alleviate this by routinely severing unhealthy attachments to garments that don't have a function.
The question must always be "do I love wearing my clothes, or do I just love having them?"

Thanks for sharing...I have the same problem.
post #40 of 40
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Thanks for sharing...I have the same problem.

Agreed. I don't have the same issue, or at least didn't until I joined SF. I think it's a mixture of carthasis i.e. the need to pause, take a deep, hard look at yourself as an individual, as well as the contemporary quick-fix solution to deep-rooted issues re: consumerism.

I've spent a good amount of money this month, on dinner and drinks ("experiences") as a way of coping with my long-ass commute and stress and tribulations with the demands of my work at the moment. I've spent a long time saving, so see the last few months as a little bit of release - not just improving my wardrobe and taking more care in what wear, but also understanding what suits me today i.e. where I am in my life.

Given that my "experiences" have been exclusively with Asian women, no cause for complaints!

I haven't completely restarted but have thinned my business wardrobe quite extensively, and will be adding to my donation wardrobe (spare wardrobe filled with clothes to charity) re: Zara v-neck bought by my ex. Not donating it because she bought it (I like the ivory button-cuff shirt that she brought from Zara, and the blue/white trainers from Kunming, China), but because it doesn't fit as well as my Nigel Hall v-necks.

On the subject of the blues, I find literal cleaning (apartment), and getting outdoors to parks and other green, natural spaces really helps to process thoughts and get into a more positive head-space.

Addendum: just realised how the above could be misconstrued. Language partners, as opposed to high-class Asian call-girls!
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