As one gets up in years, funerals become a matter of course. Someone has to plan them. Particularly if the death is sudden or violent, the immediate family is often unable to cope with arrangements. This is when someone else, must step in. The funeral parlor, can't do everything. It gets complicated. Many decisions to make. You must choose a casket, and flowers and decide where the body will be buried, and arrange for a service, and the gathering, afterward. It takes a certain amount of poise. The process continues, especially if a monument is to be erected at the burial site. I attended no less than six meetings, until we finally decided on the just the right effects. Gets expensive, too.