Originally Posted by dopey
If you mean the kind of ascot reserved for formal day wear, then go ahead if you think formal daywear won't look ridiculous in that setting and draw too much attention. If you are talking about the kind of ascot that is a neckerchief or pleated scarf tied around the neck and then tucked into the shirt, which I think you are, then the answer is - don't. Apart from the douchiness, which you may or may not care about, that kind of ascot would never be appropriate at a wedding. It is too informal. So you not only would be calling attention to yourself, but you would be calling attention with an announcement that you don't know what you are doing, i.e. "Look at me, I am an incompetent fool." There are very few circumstances when that is the message you should try to convey.
I was/am referring to the former, the "day ascot" or "day cravat" or "daykerchief"(? i just made that one up), in a loosely tied fashion. The latter part of your post, and what andrewmcin posted below, is exactly the situation I want to avoid. I'm comfortable/confident enough in what I choose to wear, but I do NOT want to show disrespect nor do I want to call attention to myself at someone else's wedding.
Originally Posted by andrewmcin
Yeah wearing a ascot would draw attention and be distracting during a wedding.
Originally Posted by SkinnyGoomba
Most are actually scarves tied in that fashion. That being said I would start with a more casual setting first.
That's actually what I do, oddly enough. I have a light linen bandana that I'll wear as a scarf under my shirt in certain situations. I've yet to acquire something nearing formal, so far it's light and casual.
Originally Posted by hugeevilrobot
Always struck me as one of those "if you have to ask..." propositions. There are a few guys on here who pull it off, but it is definitely graduate-level stuff to not look completely affected.
Completely agree. It's a pro play, and if you even look like you're unsure of why you have one on, you'll look beyond ridiculous and well into doucheville, laughable even. Which, in total truth, is why in this context (a wedding) I don't want to be questioning if I'm upstaging the bridal party which then triggers the "why am I wearing this" internal question which then nicks away at the armor of confidence. In a casual setting, it's no issue, but if I'm starting to walk the line of inappropriate for a wedding, well that's asking, or ascotting, for trouble.
Originally Posted by Big A
I just watched Roadhouse and the villain wore an ascot. His henchmen drove around town in a full-on monster truck. He had a slutty blonde girlfriend who wanted to fuck Patrick Swayze, and like to strip in public.
I believe this answers your question. However, I'm not sure if it answers it in the affirmative or the negative.
It answers many, many questions. Especially since your nickname is "Big A". How much more coincidental or serendipitous could it possibly be?