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post #61 of 89
Don't wait to tell her that you will do one vacation a year together, and a second one separately. A week or two per year to be completely selfish and focus exclusively on oneself is a good thing. Once you have kids it's highly unlikely you'll ever have the opportunity to do so... unless you have nannies and later send the kids away to school.
post #62 of 89
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She's pissed that I'd rather do zero vacations a year.
post #63 of 89
Grow some balls, OP.
post #64 of 89
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Grow some balls, OP.

Pot, meet Kettle..
post #65 of 89
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She's pissed that I'd rather do zero vacations a year.

shit can be expensive.


oh the things I could buy myself instead....
post #66 of 89
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I just don't desire to travel all that much. I like to, but I don't need several excursions per year. I find traveling much more stressful than going to work to be honest. I find a lot of peace in habitual behavior, it leaves my mind to think about more important things.
post #67 of 89
^agree
post #68 of 89
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Originally Posted by patrickBOOTH View Post

I just don't desire to travel all that much. I like to, but I don't need several excursions per year. I find traveling much more stressful than going to work to be honest. I find a lot of peace in habitual behavior, it leaves my mind to think about more important things.

different strokes....
post #69 of 89
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I just don't desire to travel all that much. I like to, but I don't need several excursions per year. I find traveling much more stressful than going to work to be honest. I find a lot of peace in habitual behavior, it leaves my mind to think about more important things.

I'm with you, man. I don't have wanderlust, and I've told my wife several times that I do not need to "see the world" to have a fulfilled life. and frankly, if it was up to me I'd rather go the bay area for the umpteenth time and hang out with my sibling and in-law and have good beer and great meals than see old castles, cathedrals and david's tiny dick. I am lucky though, that the wife has a gay cousin she's close to that loves to travel.
post #70 of 89
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Originally Posted by patrickBOOTH View Post

I just don't desire to travel all that much. I like to, but I don't need several excursions per year. I find traveling much more stressful than going to work to be honest. I find a lot of peace in habitual behavior, it leaves my mind to think about more important things.

I used to feel the same way, heck, I didn't even have a passport until last year. But once I started to travel my mind was changed. I think it's all about remembering that when you travel for pleasure it should be just that. A pleasurable experience. If you try to see everything and wear yourself out doing so, you won't enjoy it.
post #71 of 89
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I I find traveling much more stressful than going to work to be honest. I find a lot of peace in habitual behavior, it leaves my mind to think about more important things.

That stress comes from trying to organize everything to please your partner. But when you walk away from all responsibilities and obligations for a week or two (not even a phone call or email) it's fantastic.
post #72 of 89
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For me not to walk away from phone calls and emails is irresponsible for the position I am in in my department.

I am glad it isn't just me though. I actually have a ton of vacation that I tried to sell back to the company, but they wouldn't let me. Bastards.
post #73 of 89
I recently went on vacation and my password needed to be reset for my work email (which can only be done from the office) so I was totally unplugged during my time off. Best. Vacation. Evar!! WE usually do two a year and last year I stayed plugged in only to have to answer stupidity that could have waited until my return. Putting the Crackberry down is essential for happiness.
post #74 of 89
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I recently went on vacation and my password needed to be reset for my work email (which can only be done from the office) so I was totally unplugged during my time off. Best. Vacation. Evar!! WE usually do two a year and last year I stayed plugged in only to have to answer stupidity that could have waited until my return. Putting the Crackberry down is essential for happiness.

This is truth for me. Mobile devices are wireless leashes. There's an old saying, "Nobody is more important than the person in front of you". When I'm on vacation, my wife and sometimes my kids are the only people in front of me. I will even leave the phone in the hotel room just to make sure it doesn't interrupt. Making memories is way more important than a freaking email, which in three days you'll forget you had. There's a whole lot of life to live outside work.
post #75 of 89
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Originally Posted by NORE View Post

I used to feel the same way, heck, I didn't even have a passport until last year. But once I started to travel my mind was changed. I think it's all about remembering that when you travel for pleasure it should be just that. A pleasurable experience. If you try to see everything and wear yourself out doing so, you won't enjoy it.

This is interesting. My girlfriend who I've only been dating for about two months is all about traveling. She wants to go to all sorts of god damn places I really don't have a lot of interest in going, like safaris in Africa and stuff. I am more of a beach and relaxation guy myself. That said, I am open to trying these things as long as we can get into some sort of rotation where we can alternate who gets to pick what types of trips we'd go on.

Still don't get wtf women place so much emphasis on traveling the world. Reminds me of another thread recently about women on online dating who mention travel so much on their profiles.
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