Originally Posted by in stitches
i will agree with this. because they are not equal. neither is better or worse, they are different, and therefor not equal. each gender has its advantages and disadvantages. making them exactly equal will never work imo.
We're different, and should embrace that. Imho one of the biggest mistakes of the feminism movement was the evolution from campaigning for the same rights (with which I agree), to campaigning for the same treatment/positions? (not sure if its the right word).
We definitely realize that. However, currently any woman you marry in the Netherlands could walk into a wall and claim you hit her, which would result in you paying 13+ years of alimony for both her and the kid, without the chance of seeing said kids ever again. The reverse just isnt possible. The law revision that is incoming would have the maximum years of alimony down to 5(allthough I'm not sure for the kids), and would result in shared custody that would be very hard to change. Therefore significantly reducing the "perverse" incentive for women when they are not happy in their marriage to file for divorce.
I'm certain that stuff doesnt work the same in the states, but its probably comparable.
I do feel quite strongly about the subject, having seen my parents divorce twice each, and now living with a woman with whom I could easily see myself spending the rest of my life with. However, having seen how an I'll meaning person could abuse the law to obtain a carefree life for a decade (and no, not even a prenup would protect you in this country) has left me very distrustful on this issue.
OT - even though I've seen a lot of marriages crash and burn, I do still think its worth it, just be sure you know the person you're marrying.