I find your post fascinating on many levels.
First, it appears that MY frugality causes YOU so much anguish that you forget everything you ever learned about manners, and must resort to insults.
So, some questions.
Why is my frugality such a bother to you? Is it that you assume no one could possibly have an attitude towards consumption that is this different than yours? Let's say that is the reason. Why does it offend you if someone else, a total stranger, does not like to spend money? The issue of spending versus saving may be interesting, but why the hostility toward someone who does not share your values? Whatever your political or religious opinions, taste in music, or favorite food, not everyone agrees with you on those as well. Are they all evil trolls? Do all decent people agree with you on everything, or only on the subject of spending for pleasure?
You also assume that my wife was disgusted by my tattered shirts. In fact, her reaction was embarrassment that I went out like that, but she did not find the shirts themselves disgusting. In fact, she uses them for scrap or working around the house.
My pride was not in my wife's reaction, but the cleaner's reaction.
Another question: You seem to find my story about waiting for discount boots either implausible, or evidence that I am "mental" (a fairly vague diagnosis). The story is absolutely true. I gather that you would not have delayed gratification to save money on boots. Again, that makes you different than me, but why does that make you so upset? It does not upset me at all that you, and I assume other people, would have just bought more expensive boots. Its a free country. Is my frugality somehow a threat to you? Do you sell expensive hiking boots for a living?
"Mental", without more specifics, not sure exactly what this means, but I gather you believe delaying pleasure to save money is not the behavior of a sane person. Is that it? Or, to state it more carefully, do you believe the amount of money saved was not worth the pleasure forsaken? If the latter, then of course, this depends on the relative values one places on pleasure vs frugality. It is apparent that I place a relatively higher priority on frugality than you do, and that you place a higher priority on hedonic pleasure than I.
Is it not possible for different people to have different valuations on these dimensions? Or must everyone in the world land in the same place as you on the spectrum between miser and spendthrift? Do you believe that everyone actually does? Do you believe that everyone of the same income level spends the same amount of money on consumption? This strikes me as improbable, to say the least.
Final question: Do you find that hurling insults at people on the internet gets them to state they agree with you? Or to just give up and stop posting, for fear of losing your favor?
I am genuinely interested in your thoughts, and I am sorry that my attitudes apparently cause you such distress. Here's hoping you find some peace.