I don't know Spoo. Good description of how the group acts sometimes but man some really do pile on. I've seen it over and over. Women get blasted out of the forum quick (ebay and thrift thread), seemingly educated folks with reasoned posts get blasted as well. I didn't see anything really that was overly confrontational. I could tell @colco was going to get attacked and it was for just really stupid reasons.
Is there no moderation for the attacks that happen? @HansderHund do you moderate here or did you just start this years ago?
Other forums/groups I'm in 75% of you posting attacks would have been kicked out already. This wild west is how some of you like it?
I don't get it. Some of you same folks have been helpful and kind to me. I wonder why if you then would treat someone else so different? Is this how you'd teach your kids to act towards newbies or anyone really?
Maybe y'all should create a closed forum on someone's server somewhere if you continually want to reject most new posters to these public forums... Or post the hazing rules periodically so newbies would know what they would need to go through if they wanted to remain.
EDIT: i should apologize for my tone to @classicthrifter and anybody who read my original response to the above. let me try to communicate my point again in a civilized way:
imo there are simply no grounds at all for any claims of misogyny in either of these threads. in fact i've never noticed anybody bashed because of gender, sexuality, religion, nationality etc rather i think everybody who has been a part of these threads have truly been treated as fellow thrifters - nothing more, nothing less. even when there are differences of opinion, and i really feel the threads ought to get more credit in that regard.
imo there's no need to bring anybody's children or parenting into the discussion. to do so is beyond personal and to me there's really no place for it. we all have our situations - some share, some don't and i've only ever seen people supported and well wished when they choose to share that side of their IRLs.
it's a shame to paint a really diverse group of people with such a broad brush, especially since folks get along pretty well for the most part. it seems like there's a whole bunch of newcomers on the other thread lately, and lots of what could be considered noob questions but everybody seems to be getting absorbed without too much issue. in any case there will be issues because there are a lot of personalities and that's just the way people are. these are complex interactions and i think it's unfortunate and unfair to try to pin responsibility on one party or the other. sometimes we just have to muddle through.. hopefully that's clear.
Edited by double00 - 12/22/15 at 12:27am