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post #16 of 48
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Originally Posted by New Shoes1 View Post

This has nothing to do with fashion and everything to do with your discomfort with your girlfriend dressing provactively for the men in her office. Have you tried talking to her about it? Because I'm thinking that's going to get you better results than anything you find in this thread. It won't be as entertaining for us, but probably much better for you.

Well I don't see how this has nothing to do with fashion and how it's any different from me asking "hey does this ____ look ok for (name function)?" I have complete trust in my girlfriend and her motives and don't think she's doing it for men and this has nothing to do with me being jealous or insecure. This has everything to do with me genuinely caring about her and how she is perceived in the office by her peers and boss.

As hinted below, I have spoken to her about it, and she thinks there is nothing wrong with the way she dresses, and that I am just being a critical jerk.
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I like the way she dresses, I just don't think it's appropriate for work. Or am I just being an a-hole (what she seems to think)
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Well, that kind of depends on what everyone else is wearing and what the bosses respond to. If everyone's wearing a toga, then you don a toga, capisce?
It's business casual and the other women dress more conservatively, but honestly, I don't think it has anything to do with what the other women wear. I think there is still a certain standard to adhere to in an office job.
post #17 of 48
^ Pics or GTFO

All in favor, say yay....
post #18 of 48
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We just need to find the company name and e-mail her boss for pictures.
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^ Pics or GTFO
All in favor, say yay....

Is it really necessary to be a smartass? It's a legitimate question and I'm not "trolling" as all the forum people call it.
post #19 of 48
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Well I don't see how this has nothing to do with fashion and how it's any different from me asking "hey does this ____ look ok for (name function)?" I have complete trust in my girlfriend and her motives and don't think she's doing it for men and this has nothing to do with me being jealous or insecure. This has everything to do with me genuinely caring about her and how she is perceived in the office by her peers and boss.
As hinted below, I have spoken to her about it, and she thinks there is nothing wrong with the way she dresses, and that I am just being a critical jerk.

It's business casual and the other women dress more conservatively, but honestly, I don't think it has anything to do with what the other women wear. I think there is still a certain standard to adhere to in an office job.

 

I don't think you're being honest with yourself or us.  If you are, however, and your only concern is how her dress might impact her career, then you've already done everything you can.  You gave your opinion on the subject and she disagreed.  So, if she is a big girl and you trust her, let her wear what she wants to wear. 

post #20 of 48
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Originally Posted by MarcDominic View Post

Sorry if this is in the wrong sub-forum. And I'd rather ask men because I think fashionable men know more about fashion than an average woman.
Anyway, my girlfriend wears certain outfits to the office that I think are borderline inappropriate and/or maybe too casual for the workplace (officially a busines casual office). Tell me if I'm crazy, but in the past 2 weeks she's worn:
1 - A very tight short sleeve shirt (not low-cut) with a very padded bra. Her boss had even told someone else "I could barely stare at her face when she was talking to me."
2 - A shirt that hangs off one shoulder and completely exposes her bra strap (red) on that shoulder.
3 - Loose-fitting shirt with no sleeves that, at side view, the arm hole exposes like half of her bra (red bra again).
4 - Outline of thong showing through her pants.
5 - In general, she wears very padded bras, which make her look too top-heavy in my opinion and appear her boobs are fake. She's 5', 94 lbs, and she's already busty for her frame.
I like the way she dresses, I just don't think it's appropriate for work. Or am I just being an a-hole (what she seems to think)

If she weighs 300 lbs and you can see every ripple of fat under her clothes, then you may have a legitamite concern.
If on the other hand she looks great, then you are definitely being an a$$hole.
I am wagering the latter.
By the way, her boss is also an a$$hole if he has a problem looking her in the eyes. Clearly he is a comprimised individual to objectify and dehumanize a woman.
If you cannot or will not respect your girlfriend then you will lose your girlfriend. You are probably an insecure person to begin with so work on improving yourself.
Here is a tip to stay together ....remember when you first met. you may be suprised to find that what turned you on about her are the very things you complain about now.
Man up. Let her read and respond to this thread too. I, for one, would be very interested to have her thoughts on the matter.
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post #21 of 48
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It's a legitimate question and I'm not "trolling" as all the forum people call it.

This is MC. Go to PurseForvm for this question. Wrong forum.
post #22 of 48
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I don't think you're being honest with yourself or us.

I don't see how it's so hard to believe that, as her boyfriend, I have genuine concern about her career and how she's perceived.
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Originally Posted by jrd617 View Post

This is MC. Go to PurseForvm for this question. Wrong forum.

As I've said, i'd rather have a fashionable man's opinion, particularly one familiar with the white collar environment, which seems to be the majority here. But thanks, you've been very helpful.
post #23 of 48
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Here is a tip to stay together ....remember when you first met. you may be suprised to find that what turned you on about her are the very things you complain about now.
Man up. Let her read and respond to this thread too. I, for one, would be very interested to have her thoughts on the matter.
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We met at work and her provacative dress made me only want to sleep with her. She portrayed herself in a completely different way than she really is. Then I got to know the real her. Fast forward a couple years, now we live together.

Everything I've said about her on this thread I've told her, and I'm sure she'd cry when hearing I posted about it on some internet forum. So I'd rather avoid that instead of manning up. Also, before we even started dating, I told her she should maybe tone down the way she dresses. She agreed at the time and did actually tone it down a bit.

I failed to mention this, but we work in the same office now.
post #24 of 48
Reread my first response, Irate Customer's response and Man of Lint's response. We're all basically saying the same thing. You can learn to accept her for who she is (and stop trying to change her) or talk to her about how her dress bothers you (stop denying it). If it bothers you enough and she is unwilling to change, maybe this isn't the relationship for you.
post #25 of 48
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We met at work and her provacative dress made me only want to sleep with her. .....

Bingo. It was fine until you got together, but now it's not. You don't like the fact that other men are ogling your girl, or rather you don't like the fact that she might like it. You're going to have to get over this stuff man, or you're going to go insane about it. Posting to anon iGents is the first step toward dementia smile.gif

Seriously Marc, you've done your part. There's nothing left for you to do, the ball is in her court.
post #26 of 48
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If I ran an office, yoga pants would be mandatory for all women. (No fatties)

Yoga pants are god's gift to men.
post #27 of 48
My company posted this charity thing recently on our intranet site where women can donate some business clothes to help underprivileged women dress for interviews. I found it incredibly ironic, that the women in my office could use a lot of help themselves and have no business donating any of their garb to underprivileged women.
post #28 of 48

OP,

 

Last night, she mentioned to me that you were giving her crap about this.  But look on the bright side; by the end of the night she wasn't really concerned about what you thought anymore.

post #29 of 48
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Originally Posted by patrickBOOTH View Post

My company posted this charity thing recently on our intranet site where women can donate some business clothes to help underprivileged women dress for interviews. I found it incredibly ironic, that the women in my office could use a lot of help themselves and have no business donating any of their garb to underprivileged women.

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post #30 of 48
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Originally Posted by MarcDominic View Post

We met at work and her provacative dress made me only want to sleep with her. She portrayed herself in a completely different way than she really is. Then I got to know the real her. Fast forward a couple years, now we live together.
Everything I've said about her on this thread I've told her, and I'm sure she'd cry when hearing I posted about it on some internet forum. So I'd rather avoid that instead of manning up. Also, before we even started dating, I told her she should maybe tone down the way she dresses. She agreed at the time and did actually tone it down a bit.
I failed to mention this, but we work in the same office now.

She sounds like a no brainier, you had your pat, let her leave and flourish her career

Now get someone who is kind enough to make you a sandwich and a pot of tea
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