or Connect
Styleforum › Forums › Men's Style › Classic Menswear › How to dress up when your friends don't
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:

How to dress up when your friends don't

post #1 of 47
Thread Starter 

Hello all!

 

Long time lurker, first post. I've viewed this site many times for style tips, and I now have need of your advice. This is a general question of "how to dress up when your friends don't?"

 

First off, I'm in my early 20s and I'll start with a specific example: My birthday is coming up very soon and I am planning to go to Foxwoods casino with a couple of friends. One of them is a jeans-and-tshirt type and the other is a raver and wears shorts, loud t-shirts, and loud accessories. Me, on the other hand, I enjoy dressing up. I've thought about wearing a button-front shirt with dress chinos or dress jeans with a blazer or maybe even a suit.

 

But most of the time I want to dress up when hanging out with friends who don't, I feel pressured not too and I usually just wear a casual button-down or a t-shirt with jeans or shorts. Because I feel like I would be out of place and my friends would react weird to it.

 

Any advice or tips? Thank you!

post #2 of 47

Ditch the "dress" pants for regular chinos or jeans and wear a tshirt instead of a collared shirt under the jacket. That way you can wear your tailored jacket without looking like your friends' lawyer or father.

 

inb4 get new friends.

post #3 of 47
Tough question......I wouldn't roc a suit to Foxwoods..
And you don't want to change your friends.....I would just go with the flow and dress how you want..but not to "crsipy!"
post #4 of 47
My recommendation: Check out Epaulet's excellent array of chino and shirt offerings. The rivet chinos come in lots of handsome but not-too-formal fabrics, and it's easy to find a button-up shirt there that will pair quite nicely. Add a pair of brown wing tips, and you're looking good without looking like Teen Lawyer. Being well-dressed doesn't necessarily mean being dressed-up.
post #5 of 47
Oxford or other button down collar shirt, khakis, no socks, loafers and something like an elbow patch sportcoat in a casual fabric and cut.

Friends tend to have a tough time with sudden dramatic changes, ease into it. You really don't need to wear a suit and you'll likely be better suited to the full days activities in a sportscoat.

I rarely wear a full suit around my friends unless we're going someplace particularly formal. Mind you they will eventually come around if you have any style and pull off these looks with success.
post #6 of 47
Dress for the occasion/venue first and foremost.

Focus on fit and color combinations etc. etc. instead of degree of formality?
post #7 of 47
Don't overdo it. You'll stick out in a nerdy, trying-too-hard kind of way. Unless Foxwoods has undergone a major change and become a helluva lot classier since I was last there, oh, ten-odd years ago. Same thing with Mohegan Sun. Upscale bastions of refinement and taste these places are not.

You can probably pull off a blazer and stone chinos, or a sportcoat and jeans. No tie. I wouldn't suit up.
post #8 of 47
Quote:
Originally Posted by Jackie Treehorn View Post

Don't overdo it. You'll stick out in a nerdy, trying-too-hard kind of way. Unless Foxwoods has undergone a major change and become a helluva lot classier since I was last there, oh, ten-odd years ago. Same thing with Mohegan Sun. Upscale bastions of refinement and taste these places are not.

+1. It's a come as you are spot. You can still dress nice w/o forcing your boyz to...
post #9 of 47
Quote:
Originally Posted by Jackie Treehorn View Post

Don't overdo it. You'll stick out in a nerdy, trying-too-hard kind of way. Unless Foxwoods has undergone a major change and become a helluva lot classier since I was last there, oh, ten-odd years ago. Same thing with Mohegan Sun. Upscale bastions of refinement and taste these places are not.
You can probably pull off a blazer and stone chinos, or a sportcoat and jeans. No tie. I wouldn't suit up.

Go during the daytime, in your 'sweat suit', you'll fit right in.
post #10 of 47
dude, these are your friends. If they are worthwhile, they will break your balls a bit and get over it.

that said, unless you landed on the heliport and went straight to the high rollers room, don't wear a suit to foxwoods.
post #11 of 47
Quote:
Originally Posted by Inker19 View Post

Hello all!

 

Long time lurker, first post. I've viewed this site many times for style tips, and I now have need of your advice. This is a general question of "how to dress up when your friends don't?"

 

First off, I'm in my early 20s and I'll start with a specific example: My birthday is coming up very soon and I am planning to go to Foxwoods casino with a couple of friends. One of them is a jeans-and-tshirt type and the other is a raver and wears shorts, loud t-shirts, and loud accessories. Me, on the other hand, I enjoy dressing up. I've thought about wearing a button-front shirt with dress chinos or dress jeans with a blazer or maybe even a suit.

 

But most of the time I want to dress up when hanging out with friends who don't, I feel pressured not too and I usually just wear a casual button-down or a t-shirt with jeans or shorts. Because I feel like I would be out of place and my friends would react weird to it.

 

Any advice or tips? Thank you!

People have friends who are like themselves. If you like to dress up then you need friends with the same interests.

post #12 of 47
I can relate. Personally I enjoy wearing suits but most of my friends don't. There have been times when we have all been out to dinner and some of us have been wearing suits while some were wearing jeans and hoodies.

However, we've known each other since we were kids so it's not something we think about to any great extent.
For me, it's a non-issue. I wear what I like, they wear what they like and when we get together it makes no difference because underneath our clothes we are still the same bunch of friends we have been for 25+ years now.
post #13 of 47
Quote:
Originally Posted by Inker19 View Post

Hello all!

Long time lurker, first post. I've viewed this site many times for style tips, and I now have need of your advice. This is a general question of "how to dress up when your friends don't?"

First off, I'm in my early 20s and I'll start with a specific example: My birthday is coming up very soon and I am planning to go to Foxwoods casino with a couple of friends. One of them is a jeans-and-tshirt type and the other is a raver and wears shorts, loud t-shirts, and loud accessories. Me, on the other hand, I enjoy dressing up. I've thought about wearing a button-front shirt with dress chinos or dress jeans with a blazer or maybe even a suit.

But most of the time I want to dress up when hanging out with friends who don't, I feel pressured not too and I usually just wear a casual button-down or a t-shirt with jeans or shorts. Because I feel like I would be out of place and my friends would react weird to it.

Any advice or tips? Thank you!

having the same problem

so thats why the only time i can dress up is when i go out with girls , because girls they always dress up to the nine and dress to impress
post #14 of 47
Quote:
Originally Posted by Inker19 View Post

Hello all!

Long time lurker, first post. I've viewed this site many times for style tips, and I now have need of your advice. This is a general question of "how to dress up when your friends don't?"

First off, I'm in my early 20s and I'll start with a specific example: My birthday is coming up very soon and I am planning to go to Foxwoods casino with a couple of friends. One of them is a jeans-and-tshirt type and the other is a raver and wears shorts, loud t-shirts, and loud accessories. Me, on the other hand, I enjoy dressing up. I've thought about wearing a button-front shirt with dress chinos or dress jeans with a blazer or maybe even a suit.

But most of the time I want to dress up when hanging out with friends who don't, I feel pressured not too and I usually just wear a casual button-down or a t-shirt with jeans or shorts. Because I feel like I would be out of place and my friends would react weird to it.

Any advice or tips? Thank you!

just wear your casual shirts with jeans/chinos and some jacket with minimal or no lining/padding. and also give attention to the fit of your attire.
Quote:
Originally Posted by hermes man View Post

having the same problem
so thats why the only time i can dress up is when i go out with girls , because girls they always dress up to the nine and dress to impress

hmmm... is that why in that link below; you dress like a brand whore with no discerning taste and just rely on look books and price tags to help in your decisions, son?
post #15 of 47
Just dress up the way you want to.

My friends don't dress up while I make it a point to look at my best every time I am out. Doesn't bother me at all that I am the best dressed out of the lot and neither should it bother you.

If they are your friends, they should know you well enough that you like looking good and accept you for looking good.
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:
  Return Home
  Back to Forum: Classic Menswear
Styleforum › Forums › Men's Style › Classic Menswear › How to dress up when your friends don't