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post #46 of 58
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Originally Posted by cptjeff View Post

So you'd wear black shoes with a seersucker suit? Cream linen? That's a good way to look like an idiot.
You're talking about an artificial rule that's nowhere near universal, and in many contexts makes absolutely no sense. I have nothing against black shoes, unlike many here, but I'm going to ignore any absolutist pronouncement about what always must be the case and go with what actually makes sense for a given situation.
Seersucker suits and white bucks are good enough for the US Senate (they used to be de rigor in summer, now with a/c they're more of a fun thing), they're good enough for me.

we can stop here...
post #47 of 58
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Originally Posted by cptjeff View Post


Do they have a cat? They could disappear, and the fiance could say the cat peed in them and she threw them out. She then has you take him shopping. You get him that pair of 5th avenues, and give him a nicer pair of brown loafers as a wedding present.

Lol!

Perhaps having them mysteriously disappear is indeed a good idea biggrin.gif

AE's are hard to find and expensive around here, but I'll make sure he doesn't regret going shopping for a nice pair...

post #48 of 58
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Originally Posted by Gdot View Post

Any wedding in a place of worship, or indoors after 6pm deserves/demands black shoes. It's not a fashion rule. It's a rule of ettiquette/respect for the importance of the occasion.
Whatever trends there are away from this because of our current fashion preference for brown shoes should be ignored, in my opinion.
I'm perfectly fine with brown, red, green, navy shoes as a fashion statement for daytime wear with suits. But I feel strongly about the tradition of showing respect for others by wearing the 'required' attire at weddings and funerals. As it is a way of saying 'I'm not important here' or this is 'about' others, not me. A man who has matured to the point that he realizes everything in life is not about him would wear his black shoes to all such events. As he realizes that this is not a time or place to display his fashion sense.

I will be attending a wedding this afternoon at 5pm in a place of worship. I will not be wearing black shoes. I will not be dressing to make a fashion statement. The wedding is not about me; rather, it is about the couple, more particularly the bride. I have enjoyed the back and forth of this thread. In my judgment, black shoes are mandatory for funerals, but not for weddings.
post #49 of 58
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Originally Posted by sevenfoldtieguy View Post

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I will be attending a wedding this afternoon at 5pm in a place of worship. I will not be wearing black shoes. I will not be dressing to make a fashion statement. The wedding is not about me; rather, it is about the couple, more particularly the bride. I have enjoyed the back and forth of this thread.
In my judgment, black shoes are mandatory for funerals, but not for weddings.

oh well...
post #50 of 58
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Originally Posted by sevenfoldtieguy View Post

I will be attending a wedding this afternoon at 5pm in a place of worship. I will not be wearing black shoes. I will not be dressing to make a fashion statement. The wedding is not about me; rather, it is about the couple, more particularly the bride. I have enjoyed the back and forth of this thread. In my judgment, black shoes are mandatory for funerals, but not for weddings.

To each their own. Since the wedding is at 5pm I'd have to say the rules are 'flexible'.

It would be interesting to hear back from you how many well dressed men you see at this event who are wearing brown shoes. Or just the proportion of brown to black.
post #51 of 58
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Originally Posted by Gdot View Post

To each their own. Since the wedding is at 5pm I'd have to say the rules are 'flexible'.
It would be interesting to hear back from you how many well dressed men you see at this event who are wearing brown shoes. Or just the proportion of brown to black.
At most American weddings - this one being no exception - ones finds broad styles of dress, with some in attendance being dressed entirely too casual for the gathering at hand. Moreover, this particular wedding was one I knew I knew would lean towards more casual as opposed to more formal. For those men at least reasonably well dressed, I would put the split at about 50/50.
post #52 of 58

I don't know how to answer that question. It's like asking why wearing a blue suit instead of a grey one would be disrespectful. It wouldn't be, that's all.
 

post #53 of 58

Oops, I was answering a question from Fritzl earlier in the thread asking why I said brown shoes were ok. Shoulda quoted his question in my answer..
 

post #54 of 58
I think even in the US there were better times when people followed some sort of etiquette:

http://www.emilypost.com/everyday-manners/your-personal-image/69-attire-guide-beach-casual-to-white-tie-

The difference is that in Europe people still reference to the Debrett's and Donna Letizia texts.

People on this forum, who should care about dressing well and appriopratelly, should definetely uphold those rules.

So go for black shoes , As in any case, the op particular choice of model and colour does not go well with his suit ( as for early picture)
post #55 of 58

Black shoes hands down and dark socks.

post #56 of 58
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Originally Posted by marcodalondra View Post

I think even in the US there were better times when people followed some sort of etiquette:
http://www.emilypost.com/everyday-manners/your-personal-image/69-attire-guide-beach-casual-to-white-tie-
The difference is that in Europe people still reference to the Debrett's and Donna Letizia texts.
People on this forum, who should care about dressing well and appriopratelly, should definetely uphold those rules.
So go for black shoes , As in any case, the op particular choice of model and colour does not go well with his suit ( as for early picture)

 

The Emily Post link cited by Marco says:

 

  • Dark, business suit
  • matching vest (optional)
  • dress shirt
  • conservative tie
  • dressy leather shoes and dark dress socks

 

So why insist on black shoes? All it says is "dressy leather shoes."

 

Why not Allen Edmonds chocolate-brown leather cap-toe balmorals? Why not Alden color 8 (dark wine) cordovan bluchers? Heck, if you've got the money, why

not John Lobb bespoke shoes like this (at $6,000+)? I think wearing perfectly fitting, beautifully crafted shoes like this will result in more (and probably better) dancing at the wedding reception!  biggrin.gif

 

John Lobb City II Leather Oxford Shoes

post #57 of 58
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Originally Posted by Beardman View Post

The Emily Post link cited by Marco says:
  • Dark, business suit
  • matching vest (optional)
  • dress shirt
  • conservative tie
  • dressy leather shoes and dark dress socks

So why insist on black shoes? All it says is "dressy leather shoes."

Why not Allen Edmonds chocolate-brown leather cap-toe balmorals? Why not Alden color 8 (dark wine) cordovan bluchers? Heck, if you've got the money, why
not John Lobb bespoke shoes like this (at $6,000+)? I think wearing perfectly fitting, beautifully crafted shoes like this will result in more (and probably better) dancing at the wedding reception!  biggrin.gif

John Lobb City II Leather Oxford Shoes

You are taking it out of context. Dressy leather shoes, in a semi-formal environment means BLACK and if you read her original books, you would get to that conclusion, as brown drssy shoes would be considered "sporty"

edit: Similar scenario at Royal Ascot. This year for the first time, they had to specify black shoes for the Royal Enclosure, as in recent years people started to wear "dressy" brown or other colours shoes...
post #58 of 58

I think black or dark brown shoes look good from some pictures I've seen online.

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