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post #31 of 58
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Originally Posted by furo View Post

This.
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Can never go wrong with Westbournes (unless you are wearing full cut trousers, lol)... such a great looking shoe.

post #32 of 58
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I would like to bring to your attention that we have solved the "What sock do I wear with a navy striped suit" question.
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Sockless, with a suit ??

 

I thought that was a fashion "faux pas"?      >:-O

post #33 of 58
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Originally Posted by fritzl View Post

not really...

Maybe not in europe, but you guys still wear morning dress for weddings on a pretty regular basis, right? Us yanks don't. Weddings are formal occasions, but they're not ridiculously formal.

Black shoes are fine if you want to wear them, but hardly mandatory, at least at most weddings I've been to.
post #34 of 58
The general level of dress is so poor throughout the US that almost anything that fits (suit, jacket) will be 100% better than the typical wedding crowd.
post #35 of 58
Any wedding in a place of worship, or indoors after 6pm deserves/demands black shoes. It's not a fashion rule. It's a rule of ettiquette/respect for the importance of the occasion.

Whatever trends there are away from this because of our current fashion preference for brown shoes should be ignored, in my opinion.

I'm perfectly fine with brown, red, green, navy shoes as a fashion statement for daytime wear with suits. But I feel strongly about the tradition of showing respect for others by wearing the 'required' attire at weddings and funerals. As it is a way of saying 'I'm not important here' or this is 'about' others, not me. A man who has matured to the point that he realizes everything in life is not about him would wear his black shoes to all such events. As he realizes that this is not a time or place to display his fashion sense.
post #36 of 58
You're entitled to your opinion, but not all weddings are indoors after 6 these days, or in a church. I certainly go to a lot of afternoon ones. If it's a highly formal evening service, sure, black shoes would be called for. But I don't think I've ever even been to an evening wedding, and I've been to a pretty fair number. From my experience, they're just not all that common these days.

This isn't a funeral. It's a wedding. Joy and cheer. Wear formal clothing, sure, but if people showed up to my wedding dressed like they were going to a funeral, I would be pissed. This is a summer wedding, and odds are during the day. Brown shoes should be fine. Hell, show up to a summer wedding in the south with a well dressed crowd, and you have a pretty good chance of seeing a seersucker suit or two. Insisting that black shoes are mandatory for such an occasion would be about as wrong as you can get.
post #37 of 58

I agree, an evening wedding calls for black shoes, and a daytime summer wedding calls for linen suits and tan shoes.

But (and forgive me for using this thread) what if the groom himself plans to wear brown square toe loafers to a wedding that is to take place at 7pm?

Of course it's his wedding and he can do whatever he wants, but besides trying to convince him to wear black cap toe oxfords, would you still wear black shoes if you can't get to convince him?

 

Yes, I am in this situation and it's actually the bride who told me to try to convince the guy  lol8[1].gif They're both good friends of mine.

post #38 of 58
The bride told you to convince him? Tell him that his soon to be wife hates the shoes, and that you, as somebody who knows a little about menswear, agree with her 100%. Tell him you both think he should treat himself to a pair of nice dress shoes that he'll get use from long after the wedding, then take him to a shoe store and get him in a pair of 5th avenues.
post #39 of 58
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Originally Posted by cptjeff View Post

Maybe not in europe, Warning: Spoiler! (Click to show)
but you guys still wear morning dress for weddings on a pretty regular basis, right? Us yanks don't. Weddings are formal occasions, but they're not ridiculously formal.
Black shoes are fine if you want to wear them, but hardly mandatory, at least at most weddings I've been to.

imo nothing to do with europe.

well being mandatory. there's no extra definition. when the dress code is suit - shoes are black, period.

i don't mind what you yanks do. i think global and act local.
post #40 of 58
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Originally Posted by cptjeff View Post

Warning: Spoiler! (Click to show)
You're entitled to your opinion, but not all weddings are indoors after 6 these days, or in a church. I certainly go to a lot of afternoon ones. If it's a highly formal evening service, sure, black shoes would be called for. But I don't think I've ever even been to an evening wedding, and I've been to a pretty fair number. From my experience, they're just not all that common these days.
This isn't a funeral. It's a wedding. Joy and cheer. Wear formal clothing, sure, but if people showed up to my wedding dressed like they were going to a funeral, I would be pissed. This is a summer wedding, and odds are during the day. Brown shoes should be fine. Hell, show up to a summer wedding in the south with a well dressed crowd, and you have a pretty good chance of seeing a seersucker suit or two.
Insisting that black shoes are mandatory for such an occasion would be about as wrong as you can get.

c'mon, what's wrong with you? do you have no pride?
post #41 of 58

On the sock question, I'm a simple guy with simple rules. My navy and mid-blue suits get Pantherella cotton ribbed socks in navy, my charcoal and grey suits of all shades get the same socks in mid-to-dark grey. (I can't handle patterns on my dress socks since I think they look garish, and anyway don't hold up to washing too well. And I hate the feel of wool on my feet and ankles, I don't care what's right for winter vs. summer and all that.)

 

With a truly light grey suit, I'd consider wearing a light-to-mid grey sock. (On the other hand, I doubt I'd wear a truly light grey suit -- mid-grey is as light as I'd go.)

 

As for shoes, I don't see any disrespect in wearing brown shoes, as long as they're dress shoes made of leather. Sneakers would be a problem. (Even black ones.) That is assuming the affair is in the US. Different rules in Britain and other Britishoid places. I travel to the UK often and am not brave enough to wear anything but black shoes there, especially in the City where the bankers roam. (Even though I've started to see a few brown shoes around -- maybe American expats or just IT people who are playing in their own league....)

post #42 of 58
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The bride told you to convince him? Tell him that his soon to be wife hates the shoes, and that you, as somebody who knows a little about menswear, agree with her 100%. Tell him you both think he should treat himself to a pair of nice dress shoes that he'll get use from long after the wedding, then take him to a shoe store and get him in a pair of 5th avenues.

 Yeah, it looks like she can't convince him because he firmly believes those loafers are "classic" and "stylish". I hope we can convince him to get at least a pair of Meermin cap toes, which are unexpensive tongue.gif

post #43 of 58
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Originally Posted by Beardman View Post


As for shoes, I don't see any disrespect in wearing brown shoes,

why?
post #44 of 58
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Originally Posted by fritzl View Post

imo nothing to do with europe.
well being mandatory. there's no extra definition. when the dress code is suit - shoes are black, period.
i don't mind what you yanks do. i think global and act local.

So you'd wear black shoes with a seersucker suit? Cream linen? That's a good way to look like an idiot.

You're talking about an artificial rule that's nowhere near universal, and in many contexts makes absolutely no sense. I have nothing against black shoes, unlike many here, but I'm going to ignore any absolutist pronouncement about what always must be the case and go with what actually makes sense for a given situation.

Seersucker suits and white bucks are good enough for the US Senate (they used to be de rigor in summer, now with a/c they're more of a fun thing), they're good enough for me.
post #45 of 58
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Originally Posted by RDiaz View Post

 Yeah, it looks like she can't convince him because he firmly believes those loafers are "classic" and "stylish". I hope we can convince him to get at least a pair of Meermin cap toes, which are unexpensive tongue.gif


Do they have a cat? They could disappear, and the fiance could say the cat peed in them and she threw them out. She then has you take him shopping. You get him that pair of 5th avenues, and give him a nicer pair of brown loafers as a wedding present.
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