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Oh No: Throwing A Bachelor Party

post #1 of 27
2/18/07 at 11:17pm
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OK, So I just now found out that I'm the best man in my cousin's wedding (my cousin is actually the bride, and the groom is one of my best friends) in June. I'm 22 years old, have never been a best man and have no idea what in the hell I'm doing. Do I let my buddy make up the guest list? Is his dad invited? What do you do at bachelor parties besides have sex with strippers (note: I read it in a pamphlet)? Seriously, I'm clueless. We're located in rural VA and he's attending JMU; there's really not a lot to get into around here. Our friend owns a pretty decent bar in downtown Winchester and he'd definitely close the place off for our party if I asked. But that's really the only idea I have at the moment. Of course, there's D.C., but depending on the guest list there might be a pretty swarthy cast of people coming (when you live in an area like this, you can't be too picky with who you befriend). So, yes. Help?
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post #2 of 27
2/18/07 at 11:33pm
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Originally Posted by jonglover
OK,

So I just now found out that I'm the best man in my cousin's wedding (my cousin is actually the bride, and the groom is one of my best friends) in June. I'm 22 years old, have never been a best man and have no idea what in the hell I'm doing. Do I let my buddy make up the guest list? Is his dad invited? What do you do at bachelor parties besides have sex with strippers (note: I read it in a pamphlet)?

Seriously, I'm clueless. We're located in rural VA and he's attending JMU; there's really not a lot to get into around here. Our friend owns a pretty decent bar in downtown Winchester and he'd definitely close the place off for our party if I asked. But that's really the only idea I have at the moment.

Of course, there's D.C., but depending on the guest list there might be a pretty swarthy cast of people coming (when you live in an area like this, you can't be too picky with who you befriend). So, yes. Help?

Charlestown, WV is full of sleezy strip clubs as is DC. I wouldn't suggest you sleep with any of them but that is your choice. If I was in your situation I would go to Charlestown because the town pretty much exists for people like you. Strip clubs, casinos, and all the meth you want.

Also, we must have different definitions of swarthy.
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post #3 of 27
2/19/07 at 1:20am
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Originally Posted by texas_jack
Charlestown, WV is full of sleezy strip clubs as is DC. I wouldn't suggest you sleep with any of them but that is your choice. If I was in your situation I would go to Charlestown because the town pretty much exists for people like you. Strip clubs, casinos, and all the meth you want.

Also, we must have different definitions of swarthy.

Hm? I think my attempt at humour is lost on you.
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post #4 of 27
2/19/07 at 5:36pm
Decide what kind of "event" you and the group of friends will have. Perhaps I'm getting old, but the go-to-a-titty-bar and get drunk 'til you puke bachelor parties are nothing special, not to mention regretful if held the night before the wedding. Those are the cheapest way to go though, I suppose. I much prefer the kind that is more of an overnighter at someone's house, with 18 holes of golf, followed by a beers by the pool or lake, followed by a fantastic steak dinner with martinis and cabernet, followed by more wine, cigars, and everyone telling stories of the groom-to-be.
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post #5 of 27
2/19/07 at 6:27pm
Are bachelor parties still the night before the wedding? That seems pretty silly in principle. Everyone in the party will be hungover and tired. Unless they sat around playing bingo all night
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post #6 of 27
2/19/07 at 11:24pm
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Originally Posted by vanity
Are bachelor parties still the night before the wedding? That seems pretty silly in principle. Everyone in the party will be hungover and tired. Unless they sat around playing bingo all night

usually a month or two before, based on the past couple i've been to.
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post #7 of 27
2/20/07 at 12:27pm
Nothing. Just wanted to give the moderators a scare.
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post #8 of 27
2/20/07 at 12:43pm
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Nothing. Just wanted to give the moderators a scare.


I think the answers to your questions depend a lot on your friend's preferences for a good time, because when it comes down to it, that's what you're responsible for. The two most recent parties I attended (did not plan) involved no women at all (clothed or otherwise). For one, we went fishing, for the other, we went on a microbrewery tour and played cards. They sound boring on the face of it, but they were both great times in their own ways.

As for relatives invited, I think if you're going to be doing anything icky, you may want to avoid inviting immediate relatives of the bride and the father of the groom. If you need to invite those people, avoid doing anything icky.
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post #9 of 27
2/20/07 at 1:01pm
www.touchtoomuch.com

Im at work so I couldn't test the link to make sure it still works. Enjoy..
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post #10 of 27
2/20/07 at 1:28pm
As another person in Touch Too Much's, uh, service area, I can also say I've had good, er, experiences with them.
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post #11 of 27
2/20/07 at 4:07pm
What does the groom like to do? My cousin is getting married next month. He's an outdoorsy guy and a James Bond fan, so we're playing paintball for his bachelor party. The party is several weeks before the wedding to let any unsightly welts heal.

I haven't been to any bachelor parties where the dad of the groom was invited. Usually it's the best man + groomsmen + good male friends.
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post #12 of 27
2/20/07 at 7:55pm
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Originally Posted by Fabienne
Nothing. Just wanted to give the moderators a scare.


Certainly made me look....
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post #13 of 27
2/20/07 at 9:40pm
Follow the advice on doing something the groom enjoys doing. If I ever have a bachelor party for myself, heavy partying and strippers are not something I'd partake in, and I'd make that clear to the person organizing it. It's just of no interest to me.
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post #14 of 27
2/21/07 at 7:59pm
True....I do not think you should, or any planner for that matter, assume that this is what somebody would like as opposed to a good time with family and friends.
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post #15 of 27
2/22/07 at 12:56pm
I was the best man for my older brother's birthday back in June; i basically let his best friend organize it all because he knew all of his friends so it was more convenient that way. Don't be too proud to ask him or his friends for help in organizing the whole thing- my suggestion, get all of them together, hit up a real classy dinner, then take it to a real classy strip club and get VIP also so you can keep the party together plus have the strippers hangin around- just my advice though
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