The 27 Year Old Virgin - Page 42
We do need an update, this is like a good TV series. I'm invested. Someone PM him.
Hey folks, I am new to the forum. I am 26 years old Indian American male who recently finished grad school, started a job as a statistician at a start-up, and got interested in fashion. I have never dated in my life. never kissed a girl. and never asked someone of their opposite sex for their number. I wouldn't say that I'm socially inept since I am capable of interacting with people, it's just that I don't attract women. On several occasions, I've heard women say that I was unattractive and have been called a creeper. Over the past few weeks, I've been feeling really lonely and want to change. It's not that I want to have random sex with lots of women, I just want to meet a few good women and do a little dating. Can anyone provide some suggestions?
Things I've changed over the past few months =
- Updated my wardrobe.
Things I need to work on =
- I need to not look angry all the time
- I need to start hanging out at places where I can meet women. These days, my day consists of waking up at 4am, hitting the gym, going to work, going home and doing various things at home. I work with almost all men and just don't have any "normal" situations during the day where I interact with women.
- I need to work on self confidence. I used to be obese and have the same self image I did then even though I now have an athletic physique.
So if you have any suggestions or helpful advice, let me know?
I see that I'm 42 pages late on this, and I don't have time to read the entire 42 to see if anything has yet to work for you, but I read a book as a joke, as I was getting out of high school, called "How To Succeed With Women" and it changed my life completely. You can get it from barnes and noble, or Amazon or whatever, it's a popular book. But it's golden.
From longitudinal studies of virginity, IQ, and income. One interesting statistic that has stuck in my brain is that 35% of MIT graduate students (24+) are virgins; keep in mind, that statistic is not about the average entering graduate student either, which is flooring when you think about it. A student of human biology at the genetics blog GNXP finds that for every additional point of IQ, the probability of virginity goes up by 2.7% for males; combined with the fact that IQ is correlated with yearly income at the 0.3 - 0.4 level, we should conclude that there are probably quite a few sex-starved, well-earning men out there. Of course, their numbers could quite possibly could be swamped by well-sexed, high earning men -- it would be a fallacy to conclude that OP is definitely high-earning. But then again, OP mentioned that he was Indian American -- and given that Indian-Americans are the highest earning minority (in the truest sense of the word minority, not the coded "Black" or "Hispanic" if often stands for slippery US lingo) in the United States, we might further update in a Bayesian sense that OP is more likely than baseline to be successful. In fact, "losers" as we typically think of them -- the chronically unemployed, the willfully uneducated -- have quite active sex lives, albeit, unsatisfying, short-term, financially destructive ones.