Originally Posted by GreenFrog
Like I said.. he needs to do his own thing until shit hits the fan somehow and he realizes he HAS to change.
That major point of realization could come in 3 weeks/months/years.. whenever. It seems like for the most part, his life is 'stable' right now, it's just that he's lacking some social relationships and the spice of life. But I wouldn't be surprised to see that he's actually comfortable right now. This is why he doesn't seek out that change, because it's not really all that painful for him.
He'll know when it's time to sack the fuck up and do something.
I agree that change is only going to happen when he sacks up. I think where we're at discords is that this thread seemed to be him sacking up, at least when he started it. It takes a lot of balls to admit to yourself "I'm a virgin at 27 and have no idea how the fuck to talk to people, let alone women." Of course, it quickly fell to shit afterwards. So commitment to his pursuit of wanting relationships is what he's missing, and unfortunately that's nothing ANY of us can help him with. All we can do is, once he's committed, give him advice on what to do.