OP wants to magically become good looking and buffed and have women rain on him without doing any work.
I haven't put in any effort but I've been really busy at work with a big merger, so long days and I just haven't felt like doing shit at the end of the day or on weekends.
It's officially over (the merger), so I now how time to "socialize". But then again, it's getting to be the heart of winter and I tend to stay in during winter because I hate cold weather.
I tried OkCupid and that was a bust. In two or so weeks, not a single response (out of 80 or so messages sent) and not a single person looked at my profile.